7 Tips to Feeling More Sensual

 

What happened to that sexy, flirtatious girl you used to know?

Don’t worry — she’s still in there.

Sensuality and seductiveness is never about what we wear or show to the outside world. It’s aboutthe way we feel inside; it is simply an attitude and a seductive MINDSET. The sexiest part of any woman’s body is between her ears – the way she thinks. Especially about herself.

Sex, a sexier life and self-esteem go hand in hand, because if you don’t feel good about yourself andyour body, the chances of feeling good in bed are limited.

There are many ways to feel sexier in your daily life – and many of these are to do with the way you treat yourself. Being sexy is not about looks. It is all about self-worth. Your sexual confidence includes how you feel about your body, how you imagine other people perceive you, and whether or not you feel attractive to the opposite sex.

Sophia Loren said, “Sex appeal is fifty per cent what you’ve got and fifty per cent what people think you’ve got.”

Magnetic sexy women want adventures, to be with them is to bask in their aura, it hints at world of possibilities and feminine mystique. They don’t wait for others to light their fire – they simply set their own blaze. Most importantly they don’t try and please men. They aim to please themselves. Ironically it’s this very attitude that creates the sense of gravity that pulls men towards them.

Tips to Feel More Sexy and Sensual

Sensuality is not simply about learning to appreciate your body — it’s also about making the sensory experience part of your everyday life, the more tuned in you are to the way things feel, look, smell, and taste, the more sensual — and sexual — you’ll become. Becoming more beautiful and sexy is available to everyone. Look within, discover who you are and fall in love with her.

Your Inner Sensual Goddess wants to let you know that you are a woman and not to hide yourselfaway. Close your eyes and feel her dancing around you. Release the old you and embrace your femininity, your curves and your fabulousness.

1. Visualization can be very powerful, Several times a day, imagine yourself as a powerful, loving and seductive woman who oozes femininity, sensuality and passion…. Believing yourself to be a powerful, loving and seductive woman will reinforce your subconscious mind, giving you a seductive mindset and attitude, as well as bring you the confidence you need to attract quality men.

Go ahead and say it – “I am sexy.”

•I am a sensual, sexual woman.

•I am a vixen

•I deserve pleasure

•I am sexy and beautiful.

•I embrace my body and my sexuality.

•Receiving pleasure is as important as giving pleasure.

•I open myself to pleasure.

2. Fill up Your Pleasure Tank. The sensual Goddess requires Pleasure! There is nothing sexy about a dry, crackly, bitchy, whining woman. Notice when you’re operating on empty. Then start thinking of ways you can make every day even more pleasurable. Make time for something you love every day. Notice how much sexier you feel when you treat yourself like the sensual goddess you are.

3. Dance - Whether it’s taking up pole dancing, belly dance, burlesque or just dancing at home by yourself, Dance reconnects you to the Feminine Sensual Goddess inside

4. Immerse yourself in full body sensuality: set aside time for soaking in a bath scented with Essential Oils. Light some candles and listen to your favourite music as your body and mind relax. And then, massage coconut oil into your warm skin… taking time to follow your body’s curves and taking a detour to all the right places.

5. Do your Kegels. Kegels can improve genital tone and sexual response, all of which can make orgasms more intense for you and your partner. Isolate the muscles you use to stop and start urine flow and then clench and release those muscles whenever you are stuck in traffic  or in a boring meeting.

6. Connect to your body. Knowing and understanding your body is essential to being a sensual and sexy. It also comes in handy when you want to be intimate with another individual – you know what you like and need and can have healthy communication about it.

In order to seduce a man, a woman must first and foremost seduce herself!

 7. Sleep naked. If you’re a pyjama pants and T-shirt kind of girl, sleeping naked will make youfeel a thousand times sexier, which will in turn, get you in the mood.

Next time I will talk about how to Ignite Your Sex Life.

I’d love your comments on what you do to feel more sensual.

Kisses

Kim xxx

10 Ways To Know if You Are Dating a Sociopath

10 Ways To Know if You Are Dating a Sociopath

Hi Gorgeous, I found this interesting article on Girlie Girl Army http://girliegirlarmy.com/   I hope you find it interesting.

Love Kim xxx

You need to be aware who you let into your life, single ladies and menfolk. Sociopaths are often hard to spot, as they can be charming with amazing social skills.

Sociopaths are smooth talkers, always have an answer, and can seem very exciting.

But their charm hides a chilly selfishness designed to torment.

Learn how to identify and avoid sociopaths by reading 10 ways to spot a sociopath (aka con artist) on your first date.

There are people in the world who don’t care about love, and who feel no remorse, empathy or emotional attachment to others. They don’t even know what these feeling are. These people are called sociopaths. Most people think of a sociopath as a deranged serial killer, but, with 4% of the population having the character traits of a sociopath, most sociopaths never physically harm anyone. Sociopaths do however ruin lives, empty bank accounts, and cause untold emotional trauma, using simply the fact that they don’t care.

The Absence of Feelings: Sociopaths may seem to laugh or cry but they present with no depth of emotion. While easily provoked to frustration or rage, their display of feeling is little more than a momentary, isolated temper tantrum. To the sociopath, other people are tools to  get them what they want: money, sex, a job or other possessions. They live in their own amoral world where nothing they do has any consequences and where they owe no one anything. They have no empathy. Thus, they elude all responsibility for their actions, and can easily turn the tables, blaming their partner without guilt or shame.

The Relentlessness of Deception: Sociopaths lie all the time. As they don’t view their spouse as a thinking, feeling person, they do not see this behavior as wrong. Their only quest is to serve themselves and, if this entails lying, cheating or even murder, they will do so. If one catches them in lies, they are brilliant at changing the subject, placing the onus on the other person, denying their involvement or trying to make their spouse seem crazy. They are even good at deceiving the police and the court system; sociopaths rarely end up in prison for their actions.

The Impulsiveness of Action: Sociopathic individuals rarely plan ahead. They undertake actions on the basis of momentary whims, often devious ones. Every act seems isolated in its own amoral universe. Thus, they cannot keep promises or repair the damage they’ve caused to others. When they lie, cheat or steal, the act exists solely for them; they believe it should have no repercussions or real world effects. They often appear to have “forgotten” they did something shortly after it happened. Their need for excitement encourages them to get involved in one night stands, shady deals and ill advised engagements. Sociopaths have no sense of commitment to their spouses, any children they may have together or the future.

HOW TO SPOT A SOCIOPATH:

Sociopaths have impressive social skills, thereby making them extremely hard to spot. They are charming, funny and exciting. This is why we need to be aware. If your new romantic interest exhibits all or most of the following behaviors, be careful. He or she might be a sociopath.

1) Charisma and charm: They’re smooth talkers, always have an answer, never miss a beat. They seem to be very exciting. Their manners are impeccable; they are well groomed; they fulfill the codes of romance and courtship to a tee. They are likely to be eloquent talkers who lace their speech with impressive sounding facts and figures. They may be fun, laugh a lot, sweep their partner off their feet with their sweetness.

2) Enormous ego: They act like the smartest, richest or most successful people around. They may actually come out and tell you that.

3) Overly attentive: They call, text and e-mail constantly. They want to be with you every moment. They resent time you spend with your family and  friends.

4) Jekyll and Hyde personality: One minute they love you; the next minute they hate you. Their personality changes like flipping a switch.

5) Blame others: Nothing is ever their fault. They always have an excuse. Someone else causes their problems.

6) Lies and gaps in the story. You ask questions, and the answers are vague. They tell stupid lies. They tell outrageous lies. They lie when they’d make out better telling the truth. If you probe deeper, you’ll find that their stories never stack up.

7) Intense eye contact: Call it the predatory stare. If you get a chill down your spine when they look at you, pay attention.

8) Move fast: They quickly proclaim that you’re their true love and soul mate. They want to move in together or get married quickly.

9) Pity play: They appeal to your sympathy. They want you to feel sorry for their abusive childhood, psychotic ex, incurable disease or financial setbacks.

10) Sexual magnetism: If you feel intense attraction, if your physical relationship is unbelievable, it may be their excess testosterone.

Some doctors call them sociopaths, others refer to them as psychopaths. Either way, the terms are used to describe individuals who have a range of personality disorders. These people are NOT certifiably mentally ill; they are biological carriers of socially and personally problematic traits. Such traits may have been manifested from childhood in acts of cruelty to animals, property or people. These characteristics can disrupt relationships, create financial and emotional crises, and, at their worst, lead the person to callously undertake acts of vandalism, theft, rape or murder. Being aware what constitutes a sociopath can help one resist their charm and the errors inherent in establishing a life with them.

Sociopaths know exactly what they are doing, and most of them never kill anyone. But they are social predators who exploit just about everyone they meet. They have no heart, no conscience and no remorse.

You can’t ‘cure’ a sociopath or help them to see the error of their ways. They don’t see the world as we do, so the only thing you can do, is save yourself and walk away.

Dr Annabelle R Charbit is the Author of A Life Lived Ridiculously; “When a girl with obsessive compulsive disorder falls in love with a sociopath, she must fight for her sanity and her life.” Available at Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

 

Here is some more information from http://www.ridiculouslife.net/index.html

Dr. Robert Hare’s Psychopathic Checklist (PCL-R) for Sociopathic Traits

1. GLIB and SUPERFICIAL CHARM – smooth, engaging, charming, slick, and verbally facile. Sociopathic charm is not in the least shy, self-conscious, or afraid to say anything. A sociopath never gets tongue-tied. They have freed themselves from the social conventions about taking turns in talking, for example.

2. GRANDIOSE SELF-WORTH – a grossly inflated view of one’s abilities and self-worth, self-assured, opinionated, cocky, a braggart. Sociopaths are arrogant people who believe they are superior human beings.

3. NEED FOR STIMULATION or PRONENESS TO BOREDOM - an excessive need for novel, thrilling, and exciting stimulation; taking chances and doing things that are risky. Sociopaths often have low self-discipline in carrying tasks through to completion because they get bored easily. They fail to work at the same job for any length of time, for example, or to finish tasks that they consider dull or routine.

4. PATHOLOGICAL LYING – can be moderate or high; in moderate form, they will be shrewd, crafty, cunning, sly, and clever; in extreme form, they will be deceptive, deceitful, underhanded, unscrupulous, manipulative, and dishonest.

5. CONNING AND MANIPULATIVENESS - the use of deceit and deception to cheat, con, or defraud others for personal gain; distinguished from Item #4 in the degree to which exploitation and callous ruthlessness is present, as reflected in a lack of concern for the feelings and suffering of one’s victims.

6. LACK OF REMORSE OR GUILT – a lack of feelings or concern for the losses, pain, and suffering of victims; a tendency to be unconcerned, dispassionate, coldhearted, and un empathic. This item is usually demonstrated by a disdain for one’s victims.

7. SHALLOW AFFECT – emotional poverty or a limited range or depth of feelings; interpersonal coldness in spite of signs of open gregariousness.

8. CALLOUSNESS and LACK OF EMPATHY – a lack of feelings toward people in general; cold, contemptuous, inconsiderate, and tactless.

9. PARASITIC LIFESTYLE – an intentional, manipulative, selfish, and exploitative financial dependence on others as reflected in a lack of motivation, low self-discipline, and inability to begin or complete responsibilities.

10. POOR BEHAVIORAL CONTROLS - expressions of irritability, annoyance, impatience, threats, aggression, and verbal abuse; inadequate control of anger and temper; acting hastily.

11. PROMISCUOUS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR – a variety of brief, superficial relations, numerous affairs, and an indiscriminate selection of sexual partners; the maintenance of several relationships at the same time; a history of attempts to sexually coerce others into sexual activity or taking great pride at discussing sexual exploits or conquests.

12. EARLY BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS – a variety of behaviors prior to age 13, including lying, theft, cheating, vandalism, bullying, sexual activity, fire-setting, glue-sniffing, alcohol use, and running away from home.

13. LACK OF REALISTIC, LONG-TERM GOALS - an inability or persistent failure to develop and execute long-term plans and goals; a nomadic existence, aimless, lacking direction in life.

14. IMPULSIVITY – the occurrence of behaviors that are unpremeditated and lack reflection or planning; inability to resist temptation, frustrations, and urges; a lack of deliberation without considering the consequences; foolhardy, rash, unpredictable, erratic, and reckless.

15. IRRESPONSIBILITY - repeated failure to fulfill or honor obligations and commitments; such as not paying bills, defaulting on loans, performing sloppy work, being absent or late to work, failing to honor contractual agreements.

16. FAILURE TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR OWN ACTIONS - a failure to accept responsibility for one’s actions reflected in low conscientiousness, an absence of dutifulness, antagonistic manipulation, denial of responsibility, and an effort to manipulate others through this denial.

17. MANY SHORT-TERM MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS – a lack of commitment to a long-term relationship reflected in inconsistent, undependable, and unreliable commitments in life, including marital.

18. JUVENILE DELINQUENCY – behavior problems between the ages of 13-18; mostly behaviors that are crimes or clearly involve aspects of antagonism, exploitation, aggression, manipulation, or a callous, ruthless tough-mindedness.

19. REVOCATION OF CONDITION RELEASE – a revocation of probation or other conditional release due to technical violations, such as carelessness, low deliberation, or failing to appear.

20. CRIMINAL VERSATILITY – a diversity of types of criminal offenses, regardless if the person has been arrested or convicted for them; taking great pride at getting away with crimes.

The PCL-R is used for psycho-diagnostic purposes and only by clinician, who possess an advanced degree in the social, medical, or behavioral sciences, such as a Ph.D., D.Ed. or M.D., are registered with the local state or provincial registration body that regulates the assessment and diagnosis of mental disorder, have experience with forensic populations, and have adequate training and experience in the use of the PCL-R.

What to do if you encounter a sociopath or have one already in your life 

There is only one thing you can do. Get away! Sociopaths cannot be cured, rehabilitated or loved back to life. These are soulless individuals, and the only way to defend against them is to stay well away. So if you encounter a sociopath, do not try to reason with them, get them to see how they’ve wronged you or plead to their sense of decency. Remember, sociopaths have no conscience or sense of duty, so any action on your part to try to change them is a pure waste of energy. 

Run for your life!

Difference between a sociopath and a narcissist

Both the narcissist and sociopath lack remorse and conscience, and both are driven by the need to dominate and control others.
  
The main difference between the two is that the narcissist desperately needs others to validate him, while the sociopath doesn’t care what others think of him. The narcissist has a terribly fragile ego and absolutely no sense of self, and needs others to prop him up by worshiping and admiring him at all times. He needs this admiration like the rest of us need air, and will surround himself only by persons who are prepared to continually revere him and agree with everything he says. 

The narcissist also possesses a sense of entitlement that means he not only needs, but demands to be idealized by others. If you do not revere him, he will lash out at you. If you do not agree with him, he will retaliate against you. As with the sociopath, the narcissist has no moral code or conscience, but he will exploit only those who pose a threat to him. His remaining victims, the ones who stroke his ego, are vital to his sense of self, so would be spared. Without those people in his life worshiping and reassuring him, he would crumble. 

The narcissist feels nothing but contempt and jealousy towards others, especially those who pose a threat to his sense of self (usually by not worshiping him). Anyone perceived as a threat must be swiftly removed from his court. 

Both narcissists and sociopaths view others as objects, but the narcissist is limited by his reliance on others to stroke his fragile ego and feed his insatiable need for validation. Without constant reassurance from others, the narcissist feels dead inside, and so invests all his energy into ensuring that others validate his fragile ego. He lives in a frantic state of paranoia that he will be exposed at any minute, and, consumed with avoiding this inevitable disaster, has little energy to be genuinely interested in others.

 

What an interesting Article

I think I have met a few men who have displayed some of those characteristics (not all of them though)

… I’d love your comments below, have you ever dated a Sociopath or Narcissist?

Love Kim xxx

5 Tips to Help You Manifest Your Soulmate

 

5 Tips to Help You Manifest Your Soulmate

To attract a partner, the first thing you need to do is look at you. The quality of your life and relationships, is determined by the quality of your thoughts.

So, if you want to change your future and attract a loving new relationship, you must change what you are thinking about right now in this moment.

To find true love … you must be willing to grow beyond the person you are today. Because the person you are now, is the person who has created the experiences that you have already had.

 In order to attract an extraordinary love, we must first face our fears and our beliefs.

We must be willing to give up the emotional armour, we’ve grown used to wearing and become more vulnerable.

 How to Change Your Limiting Love Beliefs

1. Let Go of the Past  - You cannot attract your life partner, surrounded by your baggage. He will not be able to get to you physically, emotionally or spiritually. Before you can accept new love into your life, you need to release any past hurt you are still holding onto from the past.

Some of us find it difficult to attract the right relationship because we’re subconsciously holding onto negative emotions, such as hurt or anger. These unresolved emotions get in the way of joy, happiness and love. If we are ever going to move in the direction of creating a fulfilling, lasting, romantic relationship with an amazing partner, we have to take full responsibility for our past and clean it up.

It is easier to follow old patterns, making everything someone else’s fault …. It is easy to stay stuck in a world of negative emotion and hurt … and attract more of the same, but just in a different size and shape in the form of the next person you attract into your life.

2.Clear Your Limiting Love Beliefs  The first thing to realize is that even though there is a part of you that greatly longs for finding and being with the love of your life, there is another part of you that is scared of it as well. In fact, you are probably not even aware of all the fears you have that are getting in your way! This is true for most people. These fears create a push/pull experience where one part of you is moving in the direction of healthy love and the other part is putting on the brakes and holding you back.

How often have you said one of the following?

“I’m not good-looking enough.”

“All guys are looking for is some thin young blonde.”

“All the great guys are taken and those that are left are the ones no one wants.”

“I just can’t seem to meet anyone interesting or worth the effort.”

“I don’t ever seem to have any luck.”

“I’m just going to have to resign myself to being single forever.”

 “I’m too old”

“Men are only interested in sex”

 When you tell yourself things like this, you actually start to believe it. As a result, you close yourself off to possibilities. It’s amazing the lengths our minds will go to in order to reject love because we feel we don’t deserve it or that it’s too good to be true

The challenge is that if we are constantly telling ourselves that we are not worthy of being loved, then we will give off  those negative vibes … and when men pick up on those vibes , they run for the hills and we feel rejected. The more rejected we feel, the less worthy and less certain within ourselves we feel, the more negative energy we put out there and the more rejection we will experience.

This becomes a vicious cycle !

If you believe that men are jerks … you’ll meet a lot of jerks

If you believe that there are no good men out there … you’ll have a hard time finding any

If you believe men are untrustworthy … you’ll meet few men you can trust

If you believe all men are players … that’s who you’ll meet

If you are playing the record “I’m not good enough!” over and over in your head then most likely you will never be good enough.

 The thing is … this is NOT the truth of who you are!

But the power of belief is so strong that when you shift your perspective from the negative to the positive, miraculous things happen.

If you think that men are fantastic, you’ll see fantastic men everywhere.

If you think that men are in general trustworthy, you’ll find that men usually live up to your trust.

If you think that men need love just as much as women, then you’ll meet men who will appreciate your love everywhere.

 It’s as simple as changing your perspective. Our beliefs drive our behaviour, they can be our greatest friend, or our worst enemy, in the end, the choice is yours.

 Don’t look at others ….. change you …. and magically, the people you meet and how they treat you will change in accordance to that.

As adults, we have a wonderful opportunity to transform our limiting beliefs into more productive and positive beliefs, which then translate into a better life experience

You have an absolute freedom to choose the way you want to live and you can choose your own beliefs and ways to behave.

And the good news is, you can turn this around with a few changes in the way you think and behave.

Start to make an effort to change every negative statement into a positive one.

3. Affirmations   Affirmations are positive statements that work on the subconscious mind to shift beliefs. Affirmations are phrases you repeat to yourself on a daily basis. It is not important that you believe them at first – you will see the results anyway. Repeating a positive statement trains the mind to think in a new way.

Some examples of affirmations

Any man would be lucky to talk to me

I am confident and charming and fabulous

My life is complete

I have everything I need to be happy

I am lovable just as I am, and I am now attracting exactly the right love partner to me.

I am worthy of Love

I know that my soulmate is coming to me now

 4. Learn to Love Yourself First  If we’re looking for a relationship to make us happy, then we are going to be disappointed. The key and most important thing that any of us can do to create an ideal relationship is to do everything and anything that we can see to do to become happier and more fulfilled ourselves. 

When you are happy and fulfilled in yourself, then what you’ll discover is that meeting that perfect partner, being with that ideal mate, brings just an added joy, an added layer of joy and fulfilment to that happiness and joy that’s already there within.

…Before he can fall in love with you …. You are going to have to fall in love with you !

 Finding love has nothing to do with having the perfect figure, being successful at work or wearing the right clothes. It has everything to do with believing you are lovable. Unless you feel this way, you’ll never have a happy relationship. When you have a healthy relationship with yourself, you will give off ‘confidence vibes’ and people will be attracted to you – it doesn’t matter what shape and size your body is, IF you can learn to be comfortable in your own skin and you are happy with yourself, then others will pick up on this and they will quickly want to be around you. A balanced happy person is like a magnet.

5. The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction states that we draw to us the people, places, and experiences that match our state of being.

The good news for most of you is that you already know how to manifest. You’ve done it many, many times. Maybe you didn’t think of it as manifestation, but you’ve done it. Whether its creating a new job or new place to live, or parking place.

The Law Of Attraction is a universal law that works on this simple principle: Like attracts like – what you focus on expands. If you put a lot of focus on something you want, you’ll attract it. If you put a lot of focus on something you do NOT want (like being broke), you will attract it. So you see, when you think about something you want, your attention can be on the pleasures of having what you want, or the unhappiness of not having what you want. The Law Of Attraction will then bring more of what you are predominantly focused on into your life.

If you believe that you are unlovable, then you will be right and no-one will love you. If they try to, you’ll either talk them out of it, or you’ll get rid of them completely.

If you believe you are worthless, then you’ll be right as well, and you will find others who treat you poorly. And if you believe you are destined to be alone in life, then guess what? You’ll be alone no matter how much you want love and affection

If you want to attract the people, situations and circumstances that support the manifestation of love in your life, then you must feel love, believe that it is possible for you and claim it as your own. Believing that you can and will have love is the single most important thing you can do

 It all starts with a positive mindset – I can do this … I am worthy of Love …. I deserve a Loving Relationship

If you need some more help, then you need to book into our Stop Kissing Frogs and Manifest Your Soulmate Workshop

You will You Will Learn the Tools and Processes to:

- Detox your past of old partners, resentments and relationship drama

- Identify the barriers to love that are inside of you

- Release your painful feelings of Anger, Hurt, Sadness, Regret and Unworthiness

- Heal your deepest issues about worthiness and being loveable

- Break Free from the past and finally get resolution

- Learn the Relationship Attraction Tool

- Be able to move on to new fulfilling relationships

– Become a woman who is willing to risk opening your heart to love and to be loved fully and deeply.

- Experience a continual stream of synchronicity, magic and miracles

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5 Tips To Help You Fall in Love With Life Again

 

Get Happy

 Hello Beautiful

 Do You Love Your Life?

Here are 5 Tips on How To Fall in Love with Your Life Again!

 How to Fall In Love with Your Life Again

1.       See yourself as others do – Learn to appreciate what makes you unique. Take time to see yourself through the eyes of a friend. Imagine if they were asked to describe you – would they mention your dress size, your stretch marks, your cellulite or the fact that you are always late? I don’t think so – they would focus on everything they love about you! Start seeing yourself the way others do.Write down all the compliments that you can remember being given, and then simply stick the list on your bathroom mirror as a reminderGive compliments as well – praising others raises their self-esteem and yours.

 2.       If you make a mistake don’t beat yourself up …. Look at it as a learning experience and move on. 

3.       Set realistic standards – those who try to be perfect are some of the unhappiest people around. Throw away the ruler you are using to measure yourself with.

 4.       Stop comparing yourself to others, usually they are no happier than we are, we just assume they are!

 5.       Think about a time when you were really happy – what was happening in your life at the time? What has happened since then? Did you spend more time with friends? Go out more? Was it a certain activity or dance class that you loved? Did you have more time to yourself? Try to recreate what it was – do you need to reconnect with friends, discover what you are passionate about, join a club and try something new, attend a workshop or course?

 

Some questions to ask Yourself

What are my top 5 Values?

What Inspires Me?

How does it get any better than this?

What do I want I my life, in the next 5 minutes, 5 Hours, 5 Days, 5 Months, 5 Years?

 To learn how to reconnect with your Self Worth and Love Your Life Again and also receive your FREE Online Course ‘The 2 Steps to Fabulous’ please visit www.savvyinspiredwomen.com

 Kisses Kim xxx

PS. – I’d love to read your answer to the question above – What Inspires You?

How To Embrace Your Sensuality

The Sensual Woman

Embrace Your Sensuality

It’s time to learn to love, cherish, and enjoy the wonderfully female body you’re in.

Are you comfortable in your skin? Do you celebrate your body? Most of us are so busy with “life” we don’t take the time to slow down and connect with the sensual goddess inside of us.

We want to live, laugh and love more as the sensual woman we are, but we’re too tired and resigned to the status quo to do anything about it. We forget how delicious, sensual, blissful, and juicy our lives used to be. We shut down,  close off and don’t  put ourselves first and start to operate in scarcity and lack.

The solution is to get out of our head and into our heart connecting to that space and memory of what brings us joy and passion. When you take the time to do this for yourself, you will awaken your sensuality and create a passionate life on purpose.

When a woman is fully open, alive, and passionate and at peace with who she is and where she is in life… the Goddess comes forth…

Sensual women are inviting and magnetically attractive because they are open to Life

Your sensuality is a whole body experience… living in the moment, in the NOW.

Do you permit yourself to embrace the pleasure of touch … the touch of cool satin against your skin, the touch of a warm breeze against your cheeks, the light touch of your lover’s fingers as he/she caresses you?

We all have a deep need to be touched and held.

Be gentle on yourself.

Envelop your body in warm fluffy towels as you step out of the bath or shower. Hug those you love and be hugged and caressed by those you care about in a warm loving embrace.

 Do you allow yourself time to experience nature’s beauty, the beauty of a velvety rose, the magnificence of a new day dawning?

 What about music? Can you get sexy with Gregorian chants, romantic with Andrea Bocelli, how often do you put on your favourite music and close your eyes and sway your hips?

Do you allow yourself to drink in the sensual sensations of our abundant world, and experience the moments fully, free and completely?

Your Home – Just as plants need a perfect environment in which to grow, so we too need a nurturing physical and emotional environment to grow and blossom to our fullness. Look at how you are living and with whom.  Who or what has influence on you, and does it support or drain you? Make your home a refuge from the outside world,  and fill it with plants, flowers and objects   that nurture your spirit.

 

Go and put on some music that you love

Light a candle

Close your eyes and feel your inner sensual goddess shimming around you.

Sway and dance to the music

 Release the old you and embrace your femininity, your curves and your fabulousness.

 Then get out your Journal

Ask yourself:

How do you move when you are fully alive and free?

What do you surround yourself with to feel cocooned in your sensuality as a woman?

How could you fully express your sensuality?

 Touch

What do you love to feel? Think textures!

Smell

What are you favourite smells?

Sight

What do you desire to see around you?

Hear

What do you want to have to listen to?

Taste

What can you bring into your kitchen to tantalise those taste buds?

Now bring them into your surroundings!

 Bonus Action:

Whatever you are doing, practise doing it with love, whether it‘s washing the dishes, making the bed, driving the car, cooking a meal, writing a report. Love is the magic ingredient. Once you put your loving feminine essence at the top making it a priority, it is hard to make mistakes.

As you go through your day, notice all the things that affect your five senses in wonderful ways.

Do you love the sound of that bird in the tree above you? The wonderful laughter of children  playing? Do you love the smell of that fresh baked bread? Do you love the sight of the flowers in your neighbour’s garden? Do you love the feel of cool crisp sheets against your body as you slide into your bed? Do you love the smell of your partners aftershave?

This is one of the topics covered in the upcoming Goddess Retreat (or if you life Interstate or Overseas you may purchase the program online)

Please visit www.savvyinspiredwomen.com  for more information

What is Numerology and How Can It Help Me Discover My Life Purpose and the Perfect Career or Business for Me?

How can Numerology help me find the perfect career or business for me?

 - Do you have a feeling that there is something missing in your life?

- Are you are feeling lost, stuck and confused in your current career?

- Do you want to change careers, but are not sure which direction to turn to?

- Would you like to start a BUSINESS and are not sure what type of Business best suits your gifts, talents and purpose in life. 

- Or maybe you have been made redundant and believe this is the perfect time for career reinvention

- Or maybe you are seeking deeper purpose and meaning in your life?

Each one of us came into this life to follow a particular path that would lead us to fulfil our highest potential and enhance the lives of others through our great work.

Why is it that some people seem to have the best jobs in the world, while others struggle with what they call dead end jobs?

Look around you at those people living “charmed lives.” Chances are they’re just living true to their designated paths, they found their destiny early in life.

When you’re on your unique path, you feel impassioned by your own life and work, abundance flows to you, and your life is in harmony.

When you are not living in alignment with your soul purpose – nothing works well in your life; you will struggle and never quite feel as though your work is meaningful and fulfilling. This can result in: frustration, boredom, anger, depression or even chronic illness.

The good news is that we all have an owner’s guide book!

This guide book or blueprint is the way to get us moving back on track and living our life on purpose.

This guide is hidden within the vibrations surrounding the numbers of your birth date

‘When your work is in alignment with your mission, you prosper against all odds’ Sue Frederick

What is Numerology?

Numerology is the study of the symbolism of numbers and uses those numbers to map the soul’s purpose and to show the way to a fulfilling life. It is used to determine a person’s personality, strengths and talents, obstacles, inner needs, emotional reactions and ways of dealing with others. Whether you use numerology to examine your life, take advantage of unexplored opportunities, confirm your talents or simply figure out where to go next, numerology can be a transformational  tool that helps you understand yourself and loved ones better.

Your Numerology Chart represents the instruction book you brought with you when you entered into life on planet Earth

The History of Numerology

The Greek philosopher and mystic Pythagoras, father of our modern number system, designed a theory of numbers based on the digits 1 through 9 in 580 BC.

Pythagoras taught that each number has a meaning or vibration and by adding the numbers within your birth date and reducing them to single digits, you reveal the nature of the work you came here to do.

In Pythagoras’ system every number has a positive and negative vibration which shows its potentials and challenges.

The numbers can tell us what lessons we came to learn and the challenges that we are going to face.  They also tell us what will make our hearts sing and what career or work would best suit us, along with the potential pitfalls of your path

When we come in on a birth path, we come with specific talents & gifts that we intend to share with the world through our work. If you are doing work that uses those talents you will feel fulfilled in your chosen career and life. If you are hiding out from your mission, you may have ignored, suppressed or forgotten your talents.

To uncover your purpose, you must get in touch with your inner self, pay attention to that small inner voice that whispers to you its need to create, take action on this information, and then manifest it in the world.  This will lead you to create work that you love to do.  And as a result, people will pay you for it. Having money allows you to do more of the things that you love to do in your spare time.  And it gives you the freedom of when, where, and how you choose to work.   

What is Life Purpose?

Finding and clarifying your life purpose can help you to move with greater focus and clarity every day of your life. Refining your life purpose can make it much easier to navigate these challenging times.

Everyone wants to have a fulfilling life. Unfortunately, many people miss a key ingredient to have it: finding their life purpose. They may spend years of their life only to find at the end that they have done the wrong things. Many others achieve fame and financial success but feel empty inside.

 Knowing Your Life Purpose

1. Gives meaning to everything you do. Your life purpose makes everything you do meaningful. You could be successful outside, but if you don’t find meaning you will feel empty inside.

2. It directs and guides you. Knowing your life purpose can give you a clear direction of where to go in life. It helps you make big decisions in life.

3. It motivates you . In life there are always difficult times to go through. You may experience failures or rejections. In such situations, your life purpose can give you the motivation you need to keep going.

Your Life Purpose is much more than a job. Your Life Purpose is your soul’s mission – it is what fills you with enthusiasm for life every day.  Do you wake up every day with the feeling that you can hardly wait to get started? If not, you may not be living the purpose you were born for.

Living in alignment with your purpose enables you to create the life you’ve always wanted.

Living your purpose will attract to you everything you want.

Your Life Path Number and Career Matching:

Your Life Path number is calculated using the numbers in your birth date and as such is unchangeable. Each numerology life path number has a meaning that expresses the inner traits that life will bring out for you over time and can help you realize the best career path for you. This can also help reveal the reasons behind why you may feel miserable in a certain job or life situations.

By letting you know what your exact life path number is and by guiding you on how you can make the most of its qualities, and also learn the challenges, gifts and talents of that particular path, you are one step further to living a life based on the mission your soul came on this earth to fulfil.

When you embrace your life purpose you can …

•Identify your motivation, values, qualities and talents

•Create a personal mission statement

•Unlock your innate passion and personal power

•Uncover your essence

•Bring meaning and fulfillment to your life

•Open to more joy and abundance

•Know and live your life purpose

You don’t need to take dozens of career aptitude tests or spend thousands of dollars on coaching, to find your perfect career. by understanding your birth path number as found in your birth date, you’ll be able to make easy choices that put your career or business in alignment with what you came here to accomplish.

An Intuitive Career Coaching Session using Numerology can help you life a happier and fulfilled life.

 Lets look at a few examples

 A person on the life path  4 is very task-oriented, likes organization, and thrives on the steps it takes to see a job well done. Life path number 4′s would make great small business owners, artists, and would work well in managerial positions. Famous Life Path 4’s are Will Smith and Hiliary Swank

A person with the Life Path 2 suggests that you are one of the peacemakers in society. You are a fixer, a mediator, and a diplomat and are known for your kindness and sensitivity. When you embrace your spiritual side, you are intuitive. Famous Life Path 2’s are Jennifer Aniston and Orlando Bloom

Let’s take a closer look at Angelina Joile who is a life path 5

A life path 5 is the charismatic adventurer, sensual explorer, freedom seeker and agent of change. You are not suited for routine and convention.

You came to this earth with a highly progressive mindset, with the attitude and skills to make the world a better place. The key word for your Life Path is freedom. In the pursuit of freedom, you are naturally versatile, adventurous, and advanced in your thinking. You are one of those people who is always striving to find answers to the many questions that life poses.

Your love of freedom extends to humanity at large, and concern for your fellow man, his freedom and his welfare, may be foremost in your mind

A love of adventure may dominate your life; you thrill to the chance for exploration and blazing new trails. You have quite a lot of the risk-taker in your makeup. Taking the conservative approach is just not in your nature.

On the negative side of the Life Path 5, you need meaning and purpose to anchor you, or life will get chaotic.

As a Gemini 5 life path Angelina has a powerful combination of beauty, brains and charisma. Her great work involves using this beauty, brains and charisma to make a difference in the global condition by calling out attention to problems that meed solving. When everyone wants to look at you, it is your responsibility to stand alongside the issues that matter. As you can see Angelina  is now doing her great work!

When you are not doing your true work and living true to your life purpose, nothing works well – from relationships, to career to finances!

Are You Doing What You Love?

Somewhere we picked up the false thought that we need to work in a boring unfulfilling career that we do not enjoy in order to get survive.

It isn’t surprising that at some point in our lives we get to the stage where we feel depressed, unhappy and disappointed with the way our life and career has turned out.

When our work is not in alignment with our life purpose, it won’t be successful and we won’t be happy.

But when we are firmly on our unique path, we feel impassioned by our life and our work. Abundance flows and your life is in harmony!

 If you are feeling STUCK in your current career?

 Or want to change careers, but are not sure which direction to turn to?

Or would you like to start a BUSINESS and are not sure what type of Business best suits your gifts, talents and purpose in life. 

Or have been made redundant and believe this is the perfect time for career reinvention.

Or maybe you would just like to know if your current business or career is fulfilling your life purpose

Or if you just need some direction in your life

Life Purpose Intuitive Career Coaching using Numerology can help guide you into the direction that is best for you.

Please visit my website www.kimgillespie.com .au to find out more

 You were born to succeed.

Your destiny is calling you.

Deep in your soul, you have always known your divine purpose.

Take this opportunity to discover the life you were meant to live

www.kimgillespie.com.au

Words of Wisdom From a 15 Year Old Boy

Adarsha is a fifteen year old Indian American out to change the world as the executive director of Project Jatropha. http://projectjatropha.com/

Tomorrow we’ll seize the day and throttle it! ~ Calvin and Hobbes

If today were my last day on Earth and I could share 500 words of brilliance with the world, here are the important things I’d want to pass along to others…All of us trip and fall at points in our lives. Some of us stay down, too scared from the pain to get up, or just too unwilling to work to get up. Some of us get up, but we are hesitant to go forward, and just stay where we are.

Some of us get up and move forward, slowly, but never with the pace and confidence that we earlier had in our stride. But there are a few of us who get up, dust ourselves off, and go forward stronger, learning from our mistakes and ready to take on any obstacle.

We fear falling down, and consequently slow our pace or stop completely so that we don’t get hurt. We fear pain, so we shorten our goals so that we can’t hurt ourselves in trying to achieve them.

But, is it worth giving up our dreams to avoid all pain? Is it worth giving up our hopes and goals to avoid something that is inevitable? Should we just lock ourselves away, along with everything we dream of doing? No. We cannot. We should not. We must not let fear dictate our lives.

We must not give up our dreams so easily. Too many of us live for others. Build our lives around what people want us, expect us, to be. Conform, mold, tear apart our true selves, our true ambitions, dreams, and goals, just to appease others. Your life is not somebody’s puppet, but you must take the strings into your own hands.

Do not give weight to other people’s jeers, their insults. Take them in stride, reflect on them, but don’t let them dictate your actions, your choices, your life.

Because in the end, it doesn’t matter what they think of you, what they see you as. Brave. Terror. Cold. Joyful. Heartless. Savior. All that matters is what you choose.

Source – Inspire Me Today  http://www.inspiremetoday.com/archiveDisp.php?type=0&ref=1387

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Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed

I would like to share this story sent to me my my friend Laura

….. For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality.

I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what  others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

Source -   http://www.ariseindiaforum.org

Kisses

Kim xxx

Are You Sitting On a Nail?

 Here is a Story For You ….

“One day a salesman came to a little old fashioned neighbourhood with neat houses and big front yards. There were dogs on just about every front porch. Some of them barked as the salesman walked by and some of them just lay lazily in the shadow. But there was one particular dog that was acting strangely. He whined and howled as if he was in pain.

Preoccupied, the salesman knocked on the door of the house and an elderly gentleman came and asked if he could help him.

“Sir,”- replied the salesman, “I believe that there is something wrong with your dog. He is moaning and groaning, instead of barking like all the other dogs do.” The owner looked at the dog and said, “There is nothing wrong with him. He is just sitting on a nail”. “If he is sitting on the nail why does he not move?” – asked the salesman in astonishment.

“Well” – replied the old man – “it just does not hurt him bad enough” “

Many of us are caught up in a similar situation. We are sitting on a nail, but it does not hurt badly enough. We might want to get a better job, move to a bigger house, continue our education, open our own business, get back in shape, spend more time with our family, but the problem is that our current situation is not uncomfortable enough to do something about it. So in the meantime we continue to work at a job we do not enjoy, live in a small house, spend our nights in front of the computer, and feel guilty for not devoting enough time to our children. And worst of all is that we continue to hope that someday it will all change for the better.

But our life is not a result of the circumstances that we have been put in. It is a result of choices that we make.

Take a few minutes to think what area of your life is causing you the biggest distress and sufferings?

 What is holding you back from pursuing your biggest goals?

 What problem steals your energy and occupies your thoughts?

They say, that “God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks to us in our conscience, but shouts in our pains”. There is no point in waiting till it hurts badly enough in order to start moving forward and getting back on the right track.

It is much wiser to start right now, when everything seems to be going well, by taking little steps to make our life even better.

 “You can’t cross the sea by merely by staring at the water.”   ~ Tagore

To find out more about Intuitive Career Coaching please visit www.kimgillespie.com.au and www.savvyinspiredwomen.com

Kisses

kim  xxx

How to Manifest the Life Of Your Dreams …. and Why Using Affirmations, Goal Setting and Vision Boards Doesn’t Always Work

How to Manifest the Life of Your Dreams

 

You may already be familiar with the Law of Attraction that states: What we focus on, on the inside, we create on the outside, or … We create our reality with our thoughts.

Millions of people are using affirmations, vision boards and goal setting for applying the Law of Attraction to create a desired outcome, for love, success, health or any life goal.  Proper use of these practices can catalyse wonderful positive changes in your life because, when you change your thoughts, you change your life.

But many people have found that they can state affirmations until they are blue in the face – and still have very little money in the bank, love, success and happiness!

I understand your frustration. I’ve been there. As a hypnotherapist, intuitive career coach, EFT practitioner, and life coach, for many years,  I have tried virtually every personal growth technique under the sun for creating positive change. I now know what works and what doesn’t.

What many Law of Attraction experts recommend saying Affirmations and doing Vision Boards … these are excellent mediums and I tell my clients to do these as well ….. , and with affirmations, most people simply think, read or state them, over and over. But the problem is ….  any change you manage to create just does not last: Just trying to force yourself through willpower alone is not very effective, because it will eventually fizzles out. And, if you are just trying to create change this way, it’s a lot of work! This is the very same reason why most dieters gain back all the weight they lost (and then some) within 2 years, why most people cannot quit smoking easily. 

Just setting New Year’s resolutions and affirming at the conscious level is not enough.

You may experience occasional progress, but it’s one step forward, one or two steps back and you keep slipping back into your old pattern again, despite your efforts.

Maybe some of what you are intending, visualizing and affirming is showing up. However, the changes are not showing up quite fast or as completely as you’d like. 

You still wonder: Why is this taking so long? And why do I sometimes attract something, only to lose it again? Sometimes you feel, “I am prosperous. I can attract and receive wealth.” Or “My perfect soul mate is on the way.” But you still find yourself sometimes resonating with and feeling positive about these statements and images and feelings, but most of the time doubting them. 

You affirm and visualize but then slip back and think: “Yeah, right. What about all those bills?” or “I seem to keep attracting the wrong kinds of partners. I’m better off being alone.” 

You are still struggling, trying to make yourself believe it. But it just doesn’t feel real.

For example, one of my clients, Lisa, was struggling with trying to manifest more money yet still kept experiencing fear, lack and struggle. While she was affirming, “I earn $10 000 every month with ease and grace” over and over, part of her still did not believe this was true. Subconsciously she was running several common limiting beliefs about money that will keep her in debt and struggling forever until they are totally released and transformed. Even worse, a deeper part did not even believe she deserved it, so no matter how many affirmations she said, the money did not show up. Her unconscious program was still running: “I’m never going to be wealthy,” and “I always run out of money, there is never enough.”

Then there was Glenys who kept affirming “I am with my Soul mate’ … the problem was, she was running deep limiting beliefs that told her … ‘I am destined to be alone’, ‘Men hurt me’ and “I’m not good enough” … with beliefs like that, Glenys will never find deep, lasting love until she releases these beliefs.

 

So how can you raise yourself up, so your belief is strong and consistent?

1. Involve as much of yourself as you can while stating your affirmation. This is done by really engaging your imagination, seeing your desire, hearing it, touching it and focusing on really living it as your 100% truth. Creative visualization is a powerful key. Thus, in addition to simply thinking, reading and saying your positive thoughts, you are involving more of yourself by singing them, dancing them, writing them, creating Vision Boards and so on. You need to see it, hear it, touch it, and really resonate with your affirmation as a total truth.

2. Focus on the feeling of joy your desire brings you. It’s absolutely essential to feel the associated positive emotion because this raises your energetic vibration so you are attuned with your desire and helps attract it to you. Affirming from the energy of abundance and happiness effectively magnetizes your desire to you, whereas if you are feeling frustrated, fearful and impatient, this repels your desire out of neediness and lack. The feelings of Joy and Love magnetically attract your heart’s desire to you.

3.       Be Grateful! Appreciate and Enjoy what is here right now.  Look around you! Your life is BRIMMING WITH BLESSINGS. Give thanks to your Creator. “If the only prayer you ever say is ‘Thank you,’ it will be enough.” – Meister Eckhart.

But here’s the problem, Even if we try to affirm and visualize, even if we try to evoke the good feelings and believe, even if we remember to give thanks, often some part deep within us does not really believe it! Deep down, in our unconscious, there is a program or tape that argues with our positive affirming and visualizing.

The biggest obstacle that people face in getting what they want in life is their failure to define what it is they really want.

The next biggest hurdle to getting what you want is your own fears and doubts.

Having a vision of a wonderful future is absolutely necessary-but it typically stirs up a set of emotional roadblocks. These come at us in the form of fears both of failing and of succeeding, and in doubts about our own worthiness for success.

For example, you may be sitting there saying or writing a dozen times, “I am abundant,” but deep down a part of you blocks you from really feeling, knowing and attracting this as your truth, because that part is thinking, “No, I’m not. Money seems to go right through my hands. I have so much debt and I have piles of bills I can’t pay.” So really, you are not getting anywhere, except frustrated

So even though you are doing everything to ‘Affirm and Believe’ in the abundance, love, happiness and success you know you deserve, you may still get in our own way and SUBCONSCIOUSLY SABOTAGE your efforts.

This is because your consciousness is like an iceberg. We are aware of about 5% of our thoughts, and the other 95% are operating “below the surface.” 

Imagine an Iceberg … If the tip of the iceberg wants to go North, and the huge mass below the water line is heading South, which way do you think that iceberg is going to move? You can try to push that tip as hard as you can, yet until most of that submerged power is moving the way you want it to go, you are going to be stuck or heading the wrong way.

Limiting Beliefs

The fears and doubts cluster around a few kinds of issues. All of them are false conclusions from past experiences that limit our future. And all are hooked to beliefs about ourselves-that we don’t deserve love and success and a wonderful future, that we are not good enough, that we do not have the power to create the solutions to our problems-or beliefs about the nature of the world-that life really requires struggling and even suffering. We fear that we can’t really get what we want, that we will fail at losing weight because it has proved too difficult in the past, or we come from a generation of overweight women, or that we’ll never figure out how to get where we want to go.

We have been taught by society, our parents, our religions, and even by the movies we watch, that life is a struggle, and as long as that is what we believe, that is what we will get.

As Henry Ford said, “Whether you believe you can or believe you can’t, you are right.”

Often we run these patterns unconsciously and have no idea why we seem to have our own “Sabotage Button” which we stamp on with huge force from a great height just as we start to be successful at something.

 It’s imperative to look at the roadblocks as a friend, If you will follow those feelings to the core belief below the surface, and then change that belief, your whole life can open up. All emotions serve a positive purpose; They exist to help us move forward in life, They are your very best friends, trying to call your attention to the beliefs that are holding you back.

When you are 100% LINED UP inside, your outer reality must reflect this and when it is in alignment wonderful things happen … and it happens so quickly, consistently and often more miraculously and magnificently than you could even ask for or imagine.

 

So how do you get into this state of absolute knowingness, belief and deserving so you can Unlock the Doors to the Life of Your Dreams?

First, we need to reprogram any negative or limiting beliefs, which may be due to life experiences, particularly from childhood and early adulthood. We need to identify and then replace those negative beliefs with Higher Truths that are our absolute knowingness from our Higher Self.

This is far more powerful than just an affirmation, or even the traditional hypnotic “suggestion.” You are healing the old belief at the level of the subconscious, the root cause, and installing the highest, positive empowerment statement, deeply and completely so it aligns you with success from the inside out.

What are Limiting Beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are the culprits that hold you back from success, happiness and from your true potential. They are those sneaky thoughts that show up every time you feel inspired or motivated to go after your dreams, and they remind you of the fact that you are not good enough. They’re like the barb-wire fence and solid steel bars that are keeping you in your prison cell.

You know what it’s like, that voice pops into your head and tells you that you’re not going to make it, or you’re not going to succeed. You try to avoid it and go ahead anyway, only to fail. And then you make your limiting belief stronger, because you now believe that you’re not going to succeed.

Limiting Beliefs-

•trick you into not trying.

•blinds you to the realities of the world.

•stops you from taking risks.

•keeps you where you are.

•obstructs your growth.

•keeps you repeating negative patterns.

•prevents you from taking responsibility for your life.

•prevents you from going after your dreams.

•encourages procrastination.

•gives you an excuse for not doing what you really want to do.

•fills you with doubt and fear.

•prompts you to find “evidence” to support it.

•stops you from imagining the possibilities.

•makes you feel negative and discontent.

•prevents breakthroughs.

Here’s the truth: Beliefs are not facts. But they are just as powerful. Regardless of whether or not they are true, beliefs shape reality.

 

How do we form these beliefs?

Beliefs are primary components and building blocks of reality. They are formed during childhood and at other key times in your life. They can be shaped and influenced by family, peers, society, media, and so forth and there may be a great many you are not even conscious of.

Your beliefs affect your thoughts, feelings, attitudes and actions, and literally shape and dictate your reality at a very fundamental level, and as such become self-fulfilling prophesies, becoming our reality whether we like it or not.

Beliefs also strongly affect your ability to attract or become attracted to people and certain situations. What is important here are the results or outcomes your beliefs create for you.  For example, if you believe it’s difficult to make money, your mind will engage “special filters” so you only see, hear and experience situations where it is difficult to create money.

The mind is this powerful, that your mind will sort for all the evidence to prove the belief right. It is important to know here if you carry the right belief you attract positive outcomes, but carry limiting beliefs and you’ll prove yourself right ever time.

Why is it important to explore your beliefs?

If you change your beliefs, you change your destiny.

To successfully manifest the life you desire it is essential that your beliefs are congruent with the outcomes you seek

“Your beliefs become your thoughts,

Your thoughts become your words,

Your words become your actions,

Your action become your habits,

Your habits become your values,

Your values become your destiny.”  

~ Gandhi

 

Get to the Core of your Limiting Beliefs

You want to identify the most fundamental limiting beliefs you hold around your goal as these are the ones that will be most pivotal in producing change and have the most transformational impact towards in generating the success you seek.

When we release these beliefs, other beliefs surrounding them may lose their grip and become redundant, rather like pulling a weed out at its roots so the whole plant can die rather than just cutting the odd leaf.

 

How To Recognize Limiting Beliefs

Common Limiting Beliefs

Listen to yourself. What lies are you telling?

-          I don’t have this skill.

-          I’m not good at this.

-          Others can do it better than me.

-          I’m not experienced enough.

-          I’m not smart enough.

-          I’m not important enough.

-          I’m too young.

-          I’m too old.

-          I don’t have the money.

-          I don’t have the time.

-          It’s just not in my genes.

-          It’s too hard.

-          I don’t deserve success/love/ money/happiness/to lose weight.

-          I’m lazy.

-          Nothing ever works out for me.

-          Nobody ever notices the work I do.

-          I never get what I want.

-          This is just “the way it is.”

-          I have no control over this.

-          I have nothing to offer.

-          Money doesn’t grow on trees

-          It is bad to have money

-          Money is the route of all evil

-          It is hard to make money

-          There is never enough money to go around

-          Rich people are greedy

-          Love hurts

-          I don’t deserve love

-          I am unlovable

-          I am never love

Nobody wants me

-          The more I love, the less I am loved

-          I’m not smart enough/qualified/good enough

-          It will take forever

-          I can’t afford it

-          I don’t have the time

-          I don’t have the patience

-          It’s too hard

-          I’ve tried before and it hasn’t worked.

 

THE GOOD NEWS!

How to Release Limiting Beliefs and Stop Self Sabotage

The Good News is that these beliefs and fears can easily be identified and permanently cleared just as easily. It is our own choice whether we hang on to these limiting beliefs, or whether we are willing to let go of them and move forward in our lives.

So to uncover your negative beliefs you have to pay attention to your daily thoughts and if some thought is negative, ask yourself why you think in such a negative way. This will uncover your belief.

Try to also remember what your parents used to say to you in the areas that you are struggling with. If, for example, you have difficulties with money, maybe your parents used to say phrases such as Money is hard to earn”, “Money doesn’t grow on trees” or “I cannot afford this

If you find yourself repeating some kind of phrase all the time, you should realise that it’s a belief that you have. If the belief is positive, for example, you keep repeating how lucky you are, you should not touch it because it serves you. However, if you find yourself repeating disempowering or negative statements such as “I am a loser”, you should change such belief.

You should also understand that your every opinion and the way you see the world is so because of your beliefs. If you don’t like something, it means you have some kind of limiting belief about that thing. If you find something depressing, this is so because of your beliefs.

Some of the beliefs are hard to discover because they were formed at a very young age. Some of your beliefs were taken from your parents and they no longer serve you, however they keep filtering your experiences their own way because you fail to notice and eliminate them.

No matter how long you had some belief for, you can always eliminate it because your active beliefs are in your conscious mind. They can be hidden under so looking innocent thoughts (for example, “Look at him in his fancy car” is a hidden belief about money.

You can notice your own negative beliefs when you catch yourself saying things such as:

“Life is …”

“I am a … person”

“Earning money is …”

“I cannot do this because …”

1.  Think of a goal, desire, dream or intention you have.  A change you want to make, something you’d like to be, do or have.  Write it down.

2.  Allow thoughts, emotions, physical reactions to happen.  Notice them. Complete these sentences:

 It won’t be safe to ________ (fill in your goal) because . . .

I can’t ___________ (your goal) because . . .

My dream is impossible because . . .

This won’t happen because . . .

Begin looking for evidence of limiting beliefs in your life.

1.  What are you critical about in others?  This indicates a belief in the form of “People should . . .” or “People shouldn’t . . .” or “It’s wrong to . . .”

2.  Are there things you’d like to be, do or have, but believe you can’t.  Your belief will be something like, “I could never. . .” or “I’m too _____ to . . .” or “It’s not possible for me to _____ because . . .”

3. Write down what you discover.

When identifying limiting beliefs, look for statements that have meaning and significance to you, that elicit an emotional response or have impact in some way.

Take time to examine your thoughts and feelings for they are indicative of beliefs you hold.

What recurring thoughts and feelings do you experience?

What do you keep telling yourself about life, yourself or others in relation to your goal?

 Perhaps you hear yourself thinking or saying the same phrases, comments or statements your parents used to make when you were young. So, what are some of the limiting beliefs you have heard growing up and what do you believe about yourself, money, time, relationships, success? They usually start with “I can’t, I have to, I don’t have, I’m not, I was meant to have etc…

Write it down…Be as open and as brutally honest with yourself, as this will unlock what’s possibly holding you back…

This week, STOP and notice the things you tell yourself.

What are you telling yourself you can’t do in your life, your business, your finances, etc.?

Be courageous and give yourself the gift of TRUTH.

Truth has the ability to heal and FREE us from what holds us back in life. Truth gives us access to choices. Truth gives us access to possibility!

It may take some time to uncover your beliefs, and you may need some help from a coach, (visit www.savvyinspiredwomen.com for more information on coaching) but the quality of your life depends on it. Spend some time now uncovering and eliminating them and you will improve your life enormously.

Whether you want to believe this or not, we all have the capacity to be extraordinary, to live our passion, to realize our full potential. When you get right down to it, what holds us back are limiting beliefs that run through our minds. These are mental habits repeating in an endless loop, making us believe that we are incapable and that our dreams are impossible to achieve. They trick us into thinking we are less than we actually are.

For many of us stirring up old beliefs that are no longer serving us, stirs up old emotions around things, people and circumstances – that have gone unresolved. It’s bringing our attention to the power of “letting go” – of old ways of thinking and being – and moving on in a very different way than we ever have before.

Whether it’s our money beliefs, old relationship patterns or our feelings around worthiness, it’s time to release any energies, any circumstances, any old ways of being that are not aligned with our life purpose. It’s time to take a closer look at our life’s journey to understand the path that has led us to where we are today – and learning how to build upon that, while releasing what is no longer working.

As a Life Purpose Intuitive, it’s my intention to help you release the limiting beliefs and old stories  that are no longer serving you , so you can connect the dots of your life story in a way that makes sense, in a way that feels right. It’s my intention to help you “Connect with your Divine Purpose. Step into your Life Story and Create a Life of Passion and Abundance.”

We all have a life purpose.. What’s yours?

If you realize you could use help breaking through this barrier, what are you telling yourself about this? Would you say “yes” and take the first step to setting yourself free, or say “I can’t because…”?

If you’re ready to step fully into everything you want for yourself, in any area of life, reach out. Let’s talk. I can assist you with accelerating this breakthrough so it’s a whole lot more fun and rewarding in the process.

My Coaching programs or my Workshop, Get Unstuck and Design Your Life contains some of the most effective exercises I have found to do just that. visit www.savvyinspiredwomen.com for more information on workshops and coaching xx

Kisses Kim xxx

Release your Limiting Bliefs and Live the Life of Your Dreams