You are about to discover the Secrets, most women will never know about Love, Relationships, Sex, Dating, Weight loss and Success

Archive for the ‘Soul Mate’ Category

How to Spice Up Your Valentines Day

Re-ignite your Sex Life

Spice Up Your Sex Life

  How to Feel Sexier and Re-ignite your Love Life this Valentines Day

  1. Feeling More Sexy and Sensual is an Inside Job … Treat your sexy self as you want to be treated. Pamper yourself with whatever makes your feel Sensual, a bath, massage, flowers, perfume. Dance… movement will get you out of your thoughts and back into your body. Put on the sexiest song you know, light a candle and dance.
  1. Say an Affirmation. When you just aren’t feeling sexy, flip your thought by repeating an affirmation to yourself. Try, “I am a fabulous, luscious, sexy woman” (or something of that nature). Fake it till you make it, say it till you feel it.
  1. Express Gratitude – How often do you truly acknowledge what you appreciate about your partner? Write down 10 things about your partner that you are grateful for ~ and tell him/her. Make this a daily practice
  1. Schedule a Date Night. It is essential that you take time out for your relationship as a couple. Schedule a date if you have to, just like you would schedule a haircut or doctor’s appointment. Sometimes work, life’s obligations, and children keep us so busy that the last thing we care to even think about is being intimate. Get a friend or grandparents to look after the children and take some time out together as a couple.
  1. Try somewhere different – Be open, playful and creative. If you always have sex in the bedroom, pick somewhere else in the house! Write a list of the places you’d like to have sex. This can be something as simple of creating a picnic dinner with wine and candles in the living room. Laughing, being a little wild, and having fun are all great ways to re-trigger the lightness and joy you felt when you first met.
  1. Flirt with your partner. Remind yourself how much fun you had when you first met. A fun thing to do is to meet at a bar and pretend to be strangers and flirt outrageously with each other.
  1. Touch –Touch is always a big part of a healthy passionate relationship. Yet so much of the time we forget how to touch our partners. Humans get so much from touch but most importantly they get a barrage of neurochemicals like endorphins and oxytocin. Endorphins make people feel good and oxytocin bonds people together. Hug Your Partner today. Try giving your partner a Sensual Massage.
  1. Erotica – Read some sexy erotica (try Mills and Boon Blaze Editions for raunchy stories) or Fifty Shades of Grey. Lie in bed together, and take turns reading to each other.
  1. Initiate S.ex – Often times in relationships the man is the one who initiates s.ex the most. But eventually a man may get sick of always having to be the one who gets thing started. Be the one to seduce him this Valentine’s Day.
  1. Add some new toys! Experiment with different positions, toys, lingerie and costumes. This creates novelty so these two work hand in hand!
  1. Kiss – not just a peck on the cheek, a REAL KISS – spontaneously kiss your man for at least 1 minute 3 times a day.
  1. Serve yourself for dessert. It sounds silly but it can also be really fun and sexy. Try feeding each other juicy fruit like peaches or strawberries. Grab some yummy ice cream toppings from the kitchen such as whipped cream and chocolate syrup and turn your body into the sexiest sundae he’s ever tasted.

7 day Coaching Challenge

Day 1. Kiss your partner passionately for a full 2 minutes

Day 2. Tonight, ask your partner what turns him or her on. Talking about sex generally leads to sex!

Day 3 – Sleep Naked (please no frumpy flannelettes … or t shirts)

Day 4. Have a bath or shower together and wash each other

Day 5. Send a sexy Text Message or write a Sexy Note and put it in his lunchbox (or Wallet)

Day 6. Buy an erotic novel (or find a story online) and lie in bed and read it to your partner – Remember try Fifty Shades of Grey!

Day 7. Make love somewhere different. Or throw a blanket onto the living room floor, have sex in the bathroom, make out in the Car

“Relationships are like a garden.”  Plant the seeds of Love, Remove the weeds of resentment, shame and blame and then water your Garden with Gratitude, Happiness, Love and Passion.

Kim Gillespie is a Life, Sex and Tantra Coach with Savvy Inspired Women. To find out how you can Re-Ignite Your Sex Life please visit her websites  www.savvyinspiredwomen.com or www.sacredlovetantra.com

Why Women Love Fifty Shades of Grey

Fifty Shades of Grey

Fifty Shades of Grey

Have You Read Fifty Shades of Grey?

50 Shades of Grey is an erotic novel written by  E L James , a TV executive, wife and mother-of-two based in West London.

The story is about a young woman, Anastasia Steele who meets  business tycoon Christian Grey , who has a penchant for “bondage and discipline.” If you have ever fantasized about being dominated and you like reading  romance stories with an edge, you might enjoy 50 Shades of Grey.

What is Power Play and Erotic Domination?

Power play is simply a more heightened variety of erotic domination. It’s about one person taking the lead (dominant) and the other surrendering (submissive) always within mutually agreed upon boundaries.

 

Why do Women Love Fifty Shades of Grey?

1.  It is essentially a romantic love story .

 2. 50 Shades of Grey is a story about a sexy, dominant powerful man and that is fascinating to most women. This has a lot to do with sexual polarity, in todays society many women have morphed into their masculine energy and men into more feminine energy.  Yet so many women are dying for their lovers to take the lead in the bedroom and take them on an Erotic Adventure.  Unfortunately our modern culture has emasculated our men such that they’ve become afraid to sexually lead their woman.

 3. Fifty Shades of Grey has also given women the freedom to talk about the sensual fantasies they think about. Fantasies play a critically important role in keeping sex exciting in long term relationships. Fantasy play and bondage and submission games encourage you to move beyond your comfort zone. They encourage you to surrender to your partner, which requires a great degree of trust and vulnerablity and because of that it will bring you closer to your partner than you have ever been before.

 4. Many women have also been brought up with the ‘Good Girl Syndrome’. This conditioning leads to negative thoughts and feelings about sex and the body, resulting in an inhibited sexual response. How often have you heard the saying ‘Good Girls Don’t”? By playing ‘Fantasy Games’ in the bedroom, you are given permission to ‘Let Go of the Good Girl’ and be a little naughty … because it is only a game

5. It is a Very Sexy Read!!!

For women fortunate enough to have a trusted lover who can take control in the bedroom,  she can surrender completely, knowing he will take her on a  sensual and erotic journey to experience total pleasure.

If you’ve wanted to have your man step up and lead you erotically, tell him. And give him as much detail about what would make it sexy for you and where your boundaries are. Check out the tips below on how to ‘Spice Up Your Sex Life’.

The best lover I ever had,  would push me up against the wall, hold me tight and pin my body to the wall with his torso, he would use his other hand to pull my hair to the side while he kissed and lightly bit the back of my neck. He would then kneel down and slowly run his fingers and tongue up my legs … tell me there is not a woman out there who is swooning right now? Most of us fantasize about the strong, powerful man who can take charge and allow us to surrender completely.

 If you would like to know more about Sexual Fantasy, Erotic Domination and how to Spice Up Your Love Life, you may be interested in my next workshop – Bedroom Goddess – The Lessons in the Art of Loving  on my website Savvy Inspired Women  click here ….

Please leave your comments below and tell me what you thought of Fifty Shades of Grey …. I loved the books!

Love Kim xxx

Tips to help you Spice Up Your Sex Life

Re-ignite your Sex Life

How To Ignite Your Sex Life

Do you remember those days when you couldn’t wait to rip your guy’s clothes off!

For many women in long-term relationships, sex has become just another chore.

Here are 16 tips to help you Re-ignite your Sex Life

1. Retrain your brain. Change the way you think about sex. Most women think of sex as something he gets and you give. Instead, think of yourself as being the receiver or the lucky one. Start seeing sex as a treat for you; you can tune in to other sensual treats in your daily life.

2. Focus on a great sexual experience. Taking just five minutes out of your busy day to replay the specifics of your last really great sexual encounter (even if it was years ago and with someone else!). Thinking about your pleasure: how it made you feel — and how you want to feel that way again can turn you on sexually.

3. Men and Women are different! Acknowledge the differences.Women want romance. They want to cuddle, kiss, touch, talk, be surprised and then make love. On the other hand, men are visual and physically oriented, sexually – They want to be aroused by what their lover wears to bed, the physical language they use, the body cues that they receive from their partner throughout the day, and their partner’s curiosity and interest in being playful and sexy.

4. Take time out for each other. It is essential that you take time out for your relationship as a couple. Schedule a date if you have to, just like you would schedule a haircut or doctor’s appointment. Sometimes work, life’s obligations, and children keep us so busy that the last thing we care to even think about is being intimate. This may sound silly but in today’s world where every minute is accounted for, if you don’t schedule time for your relationship, you won’t have any time for it. And eventually, you won’t have a relationship at all.

5. Write your fantasies. Journal about some of your hottest fantasies

 6. Share your fantasies – I come across so many people that have never shared any of  their fantasies with their partner. It can be a difficult conversation to have, because you don’t know how they are going to react, but often people find out that their partner has similar fantasies and it sparks a whole new life in the bedroom. The beauty of it is that you don’t even have to fulfil those fantasies, sometimes just using them as imagery is enough; imagine your partner whispering in your ear, talking you through the hottest fantasy you’ve ever imagined. When you share your true thoughts and feelings with someone; when you are vulnerable for that moment and it’s reciprocated with equal truth and vulnerability, you grow closer as a couple.

7. Erotica – Read some sexy erotica (try Mills and Boon Blaze Editions for raunchy stories) Have you read the Novel Fifty Shades of Grey? http://www.eljamesauthor.com/  This book has taken the world by storm … Fifty Shades of Grey is  a story of a young woman, Anastasia Steele who meets a business tycoon Christian Grey,  who has a penchant for “sexual domination.” If you have ever fantasized about being dominated and you like reading romance stories with an edge, you might enjoy 50 Shades of Grey….. it is a really sexy read and has re-ignited the sex lives of women from around the world

8. Flirt with your partner. Remind yourself how much fun you had when you first met – re-spark that inner-sexiness from when you first met. A fun thing to do is to meet at a bar and pretend to be strangers and flirt outrageously with each other.

9. Touch – Focus on the physical act of touching. Touch is always a big part of a healthy passionate relationship. Yet so much of the time we forget how to touch our partners. The act of touching is very sensual and fosters an intimate feeling of one-ness. This feeling creates an invisible, seamless transition into foreplay. Take it from there without any expectations. Go with the flow and see where you end up. Humans get so much from touch but most importantly they get a barrage of neurochemicals like endorphins and oxytocin. Endorphins make people feel good and oxytocin bonds people together.

10. Initiate Sex – Often times in relationships the man is the one who initiates sex the most. But eventually a man may get sick of always having to be the one who gets thing started. One of the ways to reignite your sex life is to make your partner feel wanted. Both people in the relationship should initiate intimacy.

11. Try somewhere different – Throw away all your beliefs on how and where you should you have sex. Be open, playful and creative. If you always have sex in the bedroom, pick somewhere else in the house! Write a list of the places you’d like to have sex. Every time you and your partner do something new you create new neural pathways. This helps to create memories as well as helps to continually bond you and your partner. This doesn’t take money necessarily either. This can be something as simple of creating a picnic dinner with wine and candles in the living room. Laughing, being a little wild, and having fun are all great ways to re-trigger the lightness and joy you felt when you first met. Several psychology studies show that if you do activities with your partner that produce brain chemicals associated with arousal, this arousal gets transferred to your private, intimate relationship. Activities that create fear (e.g., roller coaster rides, skydiving, bungee jumping, or scary movies) or that cause an upsurge in the feel-good brain chemicals and this actually increases passionate love.

12. Add some new toys! Experiment with different positions, toys, styles and whatever else you and your partner agree to. This creates novelty so these two work hand in hand! Try a toy you’ve never used before and see what wonderful things you can find to do with it. Trust me, vibrators and bullets are just as much fun used on guys as they are on girls.  Many men report a great feeling when using a vibrator on their inner thighs and on their testicles. (Tip – if using Anal Toys make sure they have a flange or base that is wider than the toy to prevent it from disappearing!)

13. Have Sex Early in the Day – Men’s testosterone peaks between 7 and 8 a.m. so take advantage of this fun fact and have sex with him a few minutes after the alarm goes off

14. Seduce Each Other With Phone Sex – When he is at work send him a seductive text message or picture. Not sure where to start? Try texting him something simple but suggestive like, “Can’t wait 2 c u 2night” Just let him know that you are thinking about being alone with him. Pictures are worth a thousand words, but if you aren’t into the thought of taking nude pics of yourself, you can send him a picture of your lacy bra with the message, “Can’t wait 4 u 2 take this off me 2night.” It’s okay to feel a little shy or awkward, especially if you are new at the seduction bit. However, the more you do it, the more comfortable you will feel, especially when you see how enthusiastically your partner responds.  

15. Kiss – not just a peck on the cheek, a REAL KISS – spontaneously kiss your man for at least 10 seconds 3 times a day.

16. Serve yourself for dessert. It sounds silly but it can also be really fun and sexy. Try feeding each other juicy fruit like peaches or strawberries. Grab some yummy ice cream toppings from the kitchen such as whipped cream and chocolate syrup and turn your body into the sexiest sundae he’s ever tasted.

7 day Coaching Challenge

Day 1. Tonight, ask your partner what turns him or her on. Talking about sex generally leads to sex!

Day 2. Kiss your partner passionately for a full 2 minutes

Day 3. Send a sexy Text Message

Day 4 – Sleep Naked (please no frumpy flanellettes … or t shirts)

Day 5. Have a bath or shower together and wash each other

Day 6. Buy an erotic novel (or find a story online) and lie in bed and read it to your partner – Remember try Fifty Shades of Grey!

Day 7. Make love somewhere different. Or throw a blanket onto the living room floor, have sex in the bathroom, make out in the Car

Would you like some private coaching on how to Spice Up Your Sex Life and Introduce Fantasy Play and Sensual Domination

Bedroom Goddess is designed for women of all ages 
who are single or in committed relationships who ….

– Have lost touch with their sensuality
– Have forgotten how to be playful in the bedroom
– Are re-entering the dating scene after a break-up or a divorce and need to regain their confidence in the bedroom
– Are in a long term relationship and want to ‘spice things up’

http://savvyinspiredwomen.com/the_siren_13.html

Kim Gillespie is a Life and Intimacy Coach at Savvy Inspired Women. To receive your FREE Online Course ‘The 6 Steps to Fabulous’ The Savvy Woman’s Guide to Discovering Your Life Purpose, Designing Your Life Loving the Amazing Woman You Are ,Being Happy and Getting Your Sexy Back! visit  http://savvyinspiredwomen.com/index.html

10 Ways To Know if You Are Dating a Sociopath

10 Ways To Know if You Are Dating a Sociopath

Hi Gorgeous, I found this interesting article on Girlie Girl Army http://girliegirlarmy.com/   I hope you find it interesting.

Love Kim xxx

10 Ways to Know if You are Dating a Sociopath

You need to be aware who you let into your life, single ladies and menfolk. Sociopaths are often hard to spot, as they can be charming with amazing social skills.

Sociopaths are smooth talkers, always have an answer, and can seem very exciting.

But their charm hides a chilly selfishness designed to torment.

Learn how to identify and avoid sociopaths by reading 10 ways to spot a sociopath (aka con artist) on your first date.

There are people in the world who don’t care about love, and who feel no remorse, empathy or emotional attachment to others. They don’t even know what these feeling are. These people are called sociopaths. Most people think of a sociopath as a deranged serial killer, but, with 4% of the population having the character traits of a sociopath, most sociopaths never physically harm anyone. Sociopaths do however ruin lives, empty bank accounts, and cause untold emotional trauma, using simply the fact that they don’t care.

The Absence of Feelings:
Sociopaths may seem to laugh or cry but they present with no depth of emotion. While easily provoked to frustration or rage, their display of feeling is little more than a momentary, isolated temper tantrum. To the sociopath, other people are tools to  get them what they want: money, sex, a job or other possessions. They live in their own amoral world where nothing they do has any consequences and where they owe no one anything. They have no empathy. Thus, they elude all responsibility for their actions, and can easily turn the tables, blaming their partner without guilt or shame.

The Relentlessness of Deception: Sociopaths lie all the time. As they don’t view their spouse as a thinking, feeling person, they do not see this behavior as wrong. Their only quest is to serve themselves and, if this entails lying, cheating or even murder, they will do so. If one catches them in lies, they are brilliant at changing the subject, placing the onus on the other person, denying their involvement or trying to make their spouse seem crazy. They are even good at deceiving the police and the court system; sociopaths rarely end up in prison for their actions.

The Impulsiveness of Action: Sociopathic individuals rarely plan ahead. They undertake actions on the basis of momentary whims, often devious ones. Every act seems isolated in its own amoral universe. Thus, they cannot keep promises or repair the damage they’ve caused to others. When they lie, cheat or steal, the act exists solely for them; they believe it should have no repercussions or real world effects. They often appear to have “forgotten” they did something shortly after it happened. Their need for excitement encourages them to get involved in one night stands, shady deals and ill advised engagements. Sociopaths have no sense of commitment to their spouses, any children they may have together or the future.

HOW TO SPOT A SOCIOPATH
:

Sociopaths have impressive social skills, thereby making them extremely hard to spot. They are charming, funny and exciting. This is why we need to be aware. If your new romantic interest exhibits all or most of the following behaviors, be careful. He or she might be a sociopath.

1) Charisma and charm:
They’re smooth talkers, always have an answer, never miss a beat. They seem to be very exciting. Their manners are impeccable; they are well groomed; they fulfill the codes of romance and courtship to a tee. They are likely to be eloquent talkers who lace their speech with impressive sounding facts and figures. They may be fun, laugh a lot, sweep their partner off their feet with their sweetness.

2) Enormous ego: They act like the smartest, richest or most successful people around. They may actually come out and tell you that.

3) Overly attentive: They call, text and e-mail constantly. They want to be with you every moment. They resent time you spend with your family and  friends.

4) Jekyll and Hyde personality: One minute they love you; the next minute they hate you. Their personality changes like flipping a switch.

5) Blame others: Nothing is ever their fault. They always have an excuse. Someone else causes their problems.

6) Lies and gaps in the story. You ask questions, and the answers are vague. They tell stupid lies. They tell outrageous lies. They lie when they’d make out better telling the truth. If you probe deeper, you’ll find that their stories never stack up.

7) Intense eye contact: Call it the predatory stare. If you get a chill down your spine when they look at you, pay attention.

8) Move fast: They quickly proclaim that you’re their true love and soul mate. They want to move in together or get married quickly.

9) Pity play: They appeal to your sympathy. They want you to feel sorry for their abusive childhood, psychotic ex, incurable disease or financial setbacks.

10) Sexual magnetism: If you feel intense attraction, if your physical relationship is unbelievable, it may be their excess testosterone.

Some doctors call them sociopaths, others refer to them as psychopaths. Either way, the terms are used to describe individuals who have a range of personality disorders. These people are NOT certifiably mentally ill; they are biological carriers of socially and personally problematic traits. Such traits may have been manifested from childhood in acts of cruelty to animals, property or people. These characteristics can disrupt relationships, create financial and emotional crises, and, at their worst, lead the person to callously undertake acts of vandalism, theft, rape or murder. Being aware what constitutes a sociopath can help one resist their charm and the errors inherent in establishing a life with them.

Sociopaths know exactly what they are doing, and most of them never kill anyone. But they are social predators who exploit just about everyone they meet. They have no heart, no conscience and no remorse.

You can’t ‘cure’ a sociopath or help them to see the error of their ways. They don’t see the world as we do, so the only thing you can do, is save yourself and walk away.

Dr Annabelle R Charbit is the Author of A Life Lived Ridiculously; “When a girl with obsessive compulsive disorder falls in love with a sociopath, she must fight for her sanity and her life.” Available at Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

 

Here is some more information from http://www.ridiculouslife.net/index.html

Dr. Robert Hare’s Psychopathic Checklist (PCL-R) for Sociopathic Traits

1. GLIB and SUPERFICIAL CHARM – smooth, engaging, charming, slick, and verbally facile. Sociopathic charm is not in the least shy, self-conscious, or afraid to say anything. A sociopath never gets tongue-tied. They have freed themselves from the social conventions about taking turns in talking, for example.

2. GRANDIOSE SELF-WORTH – a grossly inflated view of one’s abilities and self-worth, self-assured, opinionated, cocky, a braggart. Sociopaths are arrogant people who believe they are superior human beings.

3. NEED FOR STIMULATION or PRONENESS TO BOREDOM – an excessive need for novel, thrilling, and exciting stimulation; taking chances and doing things that are risky. Sociopaths often have low self-discipline in carrying tasks through to completion because they get bored easily. They fail to work at the same job for any length of time, for example, or to finish tasks that they consider dull or routine.

4. PATHOLOGICAL LYING – can be moderate or high; in moderate form, they will be shrewd, crafty, cunning, sly, and clever; in extreme form, they will be deceptive, deceitful, underhanded, unscrupulous, manipulative, and dishonest.

5. CONNING AND MANIPULATIVENESS – the use of deceit and deception to cheat, con, or defraud others for personal gain; distinguished from Item #4 in the degree to which exploitation and callous ruthlessness is present, as reflected in a lack of concern for the feelings and suffering of one’s victims.

6. LACK OF REMORSE OR GUILT – a lack of feelings or concern for the losses, pain, and suffering of victims; a tendency to be unconcerned, dispassionate, coldhearted, and un empathic. This item is usually demonstrated by a disdain for one’s victims.

7. SHALLOW AFFECT – emotional poverty or a limited range or depth of feelings; interpersonal coldness in spite of signs of open gregariousness.

8. CALLOUSNESS and LACK OF EMPATHY – a lack of feelings toward people in general; cold, contemptuous, inconsiderate, and tactless.

9. PARASITIC LIFESTYLE – an intentional, manipulative, selfish, and exploitative financial dependence on others as reflected in a lack of motivation, low self-discipline, and inability to begin or complete responsibilities.

10. POOR BEHAVIORAL CONTROLS – expressions of irritability, annoyance, impatience, threats, aggression, and verbal abuse; inadequate control of anger and temper; acting hastily.

11. PROMISCUOUS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR – a variety of brief, superficial relations, numerous affairs, and an indiscriminate selection of sexual partners; the maintenance of several relationships at the same time; a history of attempts to sexually coerce others into sexual activity or taking great pride at discussing sexual exploits or conquests.

12. EARLY BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS – a variety of behaviors prior to age 13, including lying, theft, cheating, vandalism, bullying, sexual activity, fire-setting, glue-sniffing, alcohol use, and running away from home.

13. LACK OF REALISTIC, LONG-TERM GOALS – an inability or persistent failure to develop and execute long-term plans and goals; a nomadic existence, aimless, lacking direction in life.

14. IMPULSIVITY – the occurrence of behaviors that are unpremeditated and lack reflection or planning; inability to resist temptation, frustrations, and urges; a lack of deliberation without considering the consequences; foolhardy, rash, unpredictable, erratic, and reckless.

15. IRRESPONSIBILITY – repeated failure to fulfill or honor obligations and commitments; such as not paying bills, defaulting on loans, performing sloppy work, being absent or late to work, failing to honor contractual agreements.

16. FAILURE TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR OWN ACTIONS – a failure to accept responsibility for one’s actions reflected in low conscientiousness, an absence of dutifulness, antagonistic manipulation, denial of responsibility, and an effort to manipulate others through this denial.

17. MANY SHORT-TERM MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS – a lack of commitment to a long-term relationship reflected in inconsistent, undependable, and unreliable commitments in life, including marital.

18. JUVENILE DELINQUENCY – behavior problems between the ages of 13-18; mostly behaviors that are crimes or clearly involve aspects of antagonism, exploitation, aggression, manipulation, or a callous, ruthless tough-mindedness.

19. REVOCATION OF CONDITION RELEASE – a revocation of probation or other conditional release due to technical violations, such as carelessness, low deliberation, or failing to appear.

20. CRIMINAL VERSATILITY – a diversity of types of criminal offenses, regardless if the person has been arrested or convicted for them; taking great pride at getting away with crimes.

The PCL-R is used for psycho-diagnostic purposes and only by clinician, who possess an advanced degree in the social, medical, or behavioral sciences, such as a Ph.D., D.Ed. or M.D., are registered with the local state or provincial registration body that regulates the assessment and diagnosis of mental disorder, have experience with forensic populations, and have adequate training and experience in the use of the PCL-R.


What to do if you encounter a sociopath or have one already in your life 

There is only one thing you can do. Get away! Sociopaths cannot be cured, rehabilitated or loved back to life. These are soulless individuals, and the only way to defend against them is to stay well away. So if you encounter a sociopath, do not try to reason with them, get them to see how they’ve wronged you or plead to their sense of decency. Remember, sociopaths have no conscience or sense of duty, so any action on your part to try to change them is a pure waste of energy. 

Run for your life!


Difference between a sociopath and a narcissist

Both the narcissist and sociopath lack remorse and conscience, and both are driven by the need to dominate and control others.
  
The main difference between the two is that the narcissist desperately needs others to validate him, while the sociopath doesn’t care what others think of him. The narcissist has a terribly fragile ego and absolutely no sense of self, and needs others to prop him up by worshiping and admiring him at all times. He needs this admiration like the rest of us need air, and will surround himself only by persons who are prepared to continually revere him and agree with everything he says. 

The narcissist also possesses a sense of entitlement that means he not only needs, but demands to be idealized by others. If you do not revere him, he will lash out at you. If you do not agree with him, he will retaliate against you. As with the sociopath, the narcissist has no moral code or conscience, but he will exploit only those who pose a threat to him. His remaining victims, the ones who stroke his ego, are vital to his sense of self, so would be spared. Without those people in his life worshiping and reassuring him, he would crumble. 

The narcissist feels nothing but contempt and jealousy towards others, especially those who pose a threat to his sense of self (usually by not worshiping him). Anyone perceived as a threat must be swiftly removed from his court. 

Both narcissists and sociopaths view others as objects, but the narcissist is limited by his reliance on others to stroke his fragile ego and feed his insatiable need for validation. Without constant reassurance from others, the narcissist feels dead inside, and so invests all his energy into ensuring that others validate his fragile ego. He lives in a frantic state of paranoia that he will be exposed at any minute, and, consumed with avoiding this inevitable disaster, has little energy to be genuinely interested in others.

 

What an interesting Article

I think I have met a few men who have displayed some of those characteristics (not all of them though)

… I’d love your comments below, have you ever dated a Sociopath or Narcissist?

Love Kim xxx

5 Tips to Help You Manifest Your Soulmate

 

5 Tips to Help You Manifest Your Soulmate

To attract a partner, the first thing you need to do is look at you. The quality of your life and relationships, is determined by the quality of your thoughts.

So, if you want to change your future and attract a loving new relationship, you must change what you are thinking about right now in this moment.

To find true love … you must be willing to grow beyond the person you are today. Because the person you are now, is the person who has created the experiences that you have already had.

 In order to attract an extraordinary love, we must first face our fears and our beliefs.

We must be willing to give up the emotional armour, we’ve grown used to wearing and become more vulnerable.

 How to Change Your Limiting Love Beliefs

1. Let Go of the Past  – You cannot attract your life partner, surrounded by your baggage. He will not be able to get to you physically, emotionally or spiritually. Before you can accept new love into your life, you need to release any past hurt you are still holding onto from the past.

Some of us find it difficult to attract the right relationship because we’re subconsciously holding onto negative emotions, such as hurt or anger. These unresolved emotions get in the way of joy, happiness and love. If we are ever going to move in the direction of creating a fulfilling, lasting, romantic relationship with an amazing partner, we have to take full responsibility for our past and clean it up.

It is easier to follow old patterns, making everything someone else’s fault …. It is easy to stay stuck in a world of negative emotion and hurt … and attract more of the same, but just in a different size and shape in the form of the next person you attract into your life.

2.Clear Your Limiting Love Beliefs  The first thing to realize is that even though there is a part of you that greatly longs for finding and being with the love of your life, there is another part of you that is scared of it as well. In fact, you are probably not even aware of all the fears you have that are getting in your way! This is true for most people. These fears create a push/pull experience where one part of you is moving in the direction of healthy love and the other part is putting on the brakes and holding you back.

How often have you said one of the following?

“I’m not good-looking enough.”

“All guys are looking for is some thin young blonde.”

“All the great guys are taken and those that are left are the ones no one wants.”

“I just can’t seem to meet anyone interesting or worth the effort.”

“I don’t ever seem to have any luck.”

“I’m just going to have to resign myself to being single forever.”

 “I’m too old”

“Men are only interested in sex”

 When you tell yourself things like this, you actually start to believe it. As a result, you close yourself off to possibilities. It’s amazing the lengths our minds will go to in order to reject love because we feel we don’t deserve it or that it’s too good to be true

The challenge is that if we are constantly telling ourselves that we are not worthy of being loved, then we will give off  those negative vibes … and when men pick up on those vibes , they run for the hills and we feel rejected. The more rejected we feel, the less worthy and less certain within ourselves we feel, the more negative energy we put out there and the more rejection we will experience.

This becomes a vicious cycle !

If you believe that men are jerks … you’ll meet a lot of jerks

If you believe that there are no good men out there … you’ll have a hard time finding any

If you believe men are untrustworthy … you’ll meet few men you can trust

If you believe all men are players … that’s who you’ll meet

If you are playing the record “I’m not good enough!” over and over in your head then most likely you will never be good enough.

 The thing is … this is NOT the truth of who you are!

But the power of belief is so strong that when you shift your perspective from the negative to the positive, miraculous things happen.

If you think that men are fantastic, you’ll see fantastic men everywhere.

If you think that men are in general trustworthy, you’ll find that men usually live up to your trust.

If you think that men need love just as much as women, then you’ll meet men who will appreciate your love everywhere.

 It’s as simple as changing your perspective. Our beliefs drive our behaviour, they can be our greatest friend, or our worst enemy, in the end, the choice is yours.

 Don’t look at others ….. change you …. and magically, the people you meet and how they treat you will change in accordance to that.

As adults, we have a wonderful opportunity to transform our limiting beliefs into more productive and positive beliefs, which then translate into a better life experience

You have an absolute freedom to choose the way you want to live and you can choose your own beliefs and ways to behave.

And the good news is, you can turn this around with a few changes in the way you think and behave.

Start to make an effort to change every negative statement into a positive one.

3. Affirmations   Affirmations are positive statements that work on the subconscious mind to shift beliefs. Affirmations are phrases you repeat to yourself on a daily basis. It is not important that you believe them at first – you will see the results anyway. Repeating a positive statement trains the mind to think in a new way.

Some examples of affirmations

Any man would be lucky to talk to me

I am confident and charming and fabulous

My life is complete

I have everything I need to be happy

I am lovable just as I am, and I am now attracting exactly the right love partner to me.

I am worthy of Love

I know that my soulmate is coming to me now

 4. Learn to Love Yourself First  If we’re looking for a relationship to make us happy, then we are going to be disappointed. The key and most important thing that any of us can do to create an ideal relationship is to do everything and anything that we can see to do to become happier and more fulfilled ourselves. 

When you are happy and fulfilled in yourself, then what you’ll discover is that meeting that perfect partner, being with that ideal mate, brings just an added joy, an added layer of joy and fulfilment to that happiness and joy that’s already there within.

…Before he can fall in love with you …. You are going to have to fall in love with you !

 Finding love has nothing to do with having the perfect figure, being successful at work or wearing the right clothes. It has everything to do with believing you are lovable. Unless you feel this way, you’ll never have a happy relationship. When you have a healthy relationship with yourself, you will give off ‘confidence vibes’ and people will be attracted to you – it doesn’t matter what shape and size your body is, IF you can learn to be comfortable in your own skin and you are happy with yourself, then others will pick up on this and they will quickly want to be around you. A balanced happy person is like a magnet.

5. The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction states that we draw to us the people, places, and experiences that match our state of being.

The good news for most of you is that you already know how to manifest. You’ve done it many, many times. Maybe you didn’t think of it as manifestation, but you’ve done it. Whether its creating a new job or new place to live, or parking place.

The Law Of Attraction is a universal law that works on this simple principle: Like attracts like – what you focus on expands. If you put a lot of focus on something you want, you’ll attract it. If you put a lot of focus on something you do NOT want (like being broke), you will attract it. So you see, when you think about something you want, your attention can be on the pleasures of having what you want, or the unhappiness of not having what you want. The Law Of Attraction will then bring more of what you are predominantly focused on into your life.

If you believe that you are unlovable, then you will be right and no-one will love you. If they try to, you’ll either talk them out of it, or you’ll get rid of them completely.

If you believe you are worthless, then you’ll be right as well, and you will find others who treat you poorly. And if you believe you are destined to be alone in life, then guess what? You’ll be alone no matter how much you want love and affection

If you want to attract the people, situations and circumstances that support the manifestation of love in your life, then you must feel love, believe that it is possible for you and claim it as your own. Believing that you can and will have love is the single most important thing you can do

 It all starts with a positive mindset – I can do this … I am worthy of Love …. I deserve a Loving Relationship

If you need some more help, then you need to book into our Stop Kissing Frogs and Manifest Your Soulmate Workshop

You will You Will Learn the Tools and Processes to:

– Detox your past of old partners, resentments and relationship drama

– Identify the barriers to love that are inside of you

– Release your painful feelings of Anger, Hurt, Sadness, Regret and Unworthiness

– Heal your deepest issues about worthiness and being loveable

– Break Free from the past and finally get resolution

– Learn the Relationship Attraction Tool

– Be able to move on to new fulfilling relationships

— Become a woman who is willing to risk opening your heart to love and to be loved fully and deeply.

– Experience a continual stream of synchronicity, magic and miracles

Visit www.savvyinspiredwomen.com to find out more and to Get Your Free E Course – The 6 Steps to Fabulous

I’d Love You to Leave a Comment Below

Tips For Feeling Sexier

 

How to Feel Sexier In and Out of the Bedroom 

  Feel Sexy in and Out of the Bedroom

 

SEX appeal. That much-desired special something that makes heads turn. That certain aura that emanates so strongly from a woman that a man gets weak-kneed

‘Sexy’ Just the word alone is intriguing.

As women, it’s in our energy.

While some women certainly exude sex more then others; as females, we all have the power to own – and enhance – our innate sexiness.

It’s in our every bone; it’s in our lips, eyes, curves and aura.

And while sexy certainly looks nice, it feels even better.

If you not feeling sexy , or just want to amp up the intensity

Ambiance. Set it. Don’t wait for “him” to light the candles, dim the lights and get under clean soft sheets. Extra credit if you wear lingerie.

Pamper Yourself . Whether at a spa or at home, bring pleasure into your world. Maybe give yourself a manicure, take a bath or give yourself a massage. Treat your sexy self as you want to be treated.

Move Your Body.  You want to feel sexy, then do that which makes you sexy. Dance, exercise, … movement will get you out of your thoughts and back into your body, which is, believe us, inherently sexy. Put on the sexiest song you know and seduce yourself.

Mantra. When you just aren’t feeling sexy, you need to change that feeling – and feelings come from our thoughts. So, flip your thought by repeating a mantra to yourself. Try, “I am a fabulous, luscious , sexy woman” (or something of that nature). Fake it till you make it, say it till you feel it.

Laugh. Take a few minutes to laugh.  Laughter is hot!

Go the extra mile. So often when women dress up it’s for a reason: a date, an event, a night out with the girls. How about you dress up for you. Make-up, sexy lingerie and a favourite dress  can make all the difference. It doesn’t need to be a tight little dress. Put on your favourite jeans if they make you feel sexiest, it will show in your energy.

Switch it up. Being stuck in a routine can become dull. Add some colour, buy a new outfit or pull out an old piece you love wearing but just haven’t thought to in a while. Change is bold, change is sexy, and so are you!

Would you like to find out more, then visit www.savvyinspiredwomen.com to find out How to Get Your Sexy Back and Become more Playful in the Bedroom

Upcoming Workshops at Savvy Inspired Women ….

The Goddess Retreat – Get ready for the most delicious day of feminine fun … become more confident and happier, reconnect with your souls purpose , unleash the Goddess within … and Get Your Sexy Back

Femme Falate – Discover simple yet seductive tips and techniques to help you uncover your inner sensuality and inner beauty … discover the Art of Magnetic Attraction

Sex Kitten – Are You Bored in the Bedroom? Get your Sexy Back, Re-ignite the Romance and Create the Juicy Love Life of your Dreams

Visit www.savvyinspiredwomen.com to find out more.

I’d love to hear your ideas on how to feel sexier ! Please leave your comment..

Kisses

Kim xxx

 

A Welcome Video From Kim

Hi everyone …. well after a bit of prompting , I have finally uploaded a Welcome Video for you. So now you know what I look and sound like !!

Have a look at all 3 of them and please leave your comments below 🙂

Video 1 – Welcome and About Savvy Inspired Women

Video No2. Forgiveness

Video No 3 Tips to Achieving Orgasm

 I hope you enjoy them … I would love you to let me know …. so please leave a comment below and also leave a comment or click the ‘like’ button on You Tube.

Kisses

Kim xxx

Please visit http://www.savvyinspiredwomen.com/index.html  

for your FREE  E Course ‘6 Steps to Fabulous”

Emotional Freedom Coaching

Workshops  – Weight Loss , Self Esteem, Confidence, Creating Wealth, Makeover Your Sex Life,

Get Your Sexy Back

 

Are Past Relationships Stopping You From Creating a Love Filled Future? 

– Are past relationships impacting your ability to move on with your life ?

– Have you been in a ‘bad relationship’ and are still feeling intense emotional pain?

– Are you finding it hard to move on after a Divorce?

– Are you struggling to let go of a past love?

– Do you compare every man you meet to a past ‘great love’?

– Are you feeling stuck?

Your attachments to these past relationships, are the ’emotional baggage’ that you carry around on your shoulders …. or in your heart  

… this baggage  stops you from moving on with your life 

…. or eventually destroys  future relationships.

If you are still singel and don’t want to be, then ther’s a good chance that you have unconscious barriers to love. The good news is that once these barriers are identified, they can be easily transformed.

This 3 Step ‘Breakthrough Program’ will remove any obstacles you have 
to finding love after a break-up or divorce, by clearing out all of your ‘left-over baggage.’

You will Discover how to ….

– Release your painfull feelings of Anger, Hurt, Sadness, Regret and Unworthiness
– Break Free from the past
– Get Resolution
– Be able to move on to new fulfilling relationships

You will also end up with a ‘New Toolbox of Techniques’ that you can use on your own in the future (should you ever need it)

 
This is the start of a New Chapter in the Amazing Life Of YOU

Next Course Saturday November 27th. http://www.savvyinspiredwomen.com/clear_old_loves_45.html

Tag Cloud

%d bloggers like this: