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How to Spice Up Your Valentines Day

Re-ignite your Sex Life

Spice Up Your Sex Life

  How to Feel Sexier and Re-ignite your Love Life this Valentines Day

  1. Feeling More Sexy and Sensual is an Inside Job … Treat your sexy self as you want to be treated. Pamper yourself with whatever makes your feel Sensual, a bath, massage, flowers, perfume. Dance… movement will get you out of your thoughts and back into your body. Put on the sexiest song you know, light a candle and dance.
  1. Say an Affirmation. When you just aren’t feeling sexy, flip your thought by repeating an affirmation to yourself. Try, “I am a fabulous, luscious, sexy woman” (or something of that nature). Fake it till you make it, say it till you feel it.
  1. Express Gratitude – How often do you truly acknowledge what you appreciate about your partner? Write down 10 things about your partner that you are grateful for ~ and tell him/her. Make this a daily practice
  1. Schedule a Date Night. It is essential that you take time out for your relationship as a couple. Schedule a date if you have to, just like you would schedule a haircut or doctor’s appointment. Sometimes work, life’s obligations, and children keep us so busy that the last thing we care to even think about is being intimate. Get a friend or grandparents to look after the children and take some time out together as a couple.
  1. Try somewhere different – Be open, playful and creative. If you always have sex in the bedroom, pick somewhere else in the house! Write a list of the places you’d like to have sex. This can be something as simple of creating a picnic dinner with wine and candles in the living room. Laughing, being a little wild, and having fun are all great ways to re-trigger the lightness and joy you felt when you first met.
  1. Flirt with your partner. Remind yourself how much fun you had when you first met. A fun thing to do is to meet at a bar and pretend to be strangers and flirt outrageously with each other.
  1. Touch –Touch is always a big part of a healthy passionate relationship. Yet so much of the time we forget how to touch our partners. Humans get so much from touch but most importantly they get a barrage of neurochemicals like endorphins and oxytocin. Endorphins make people feel good and oxytocin bonds people together. Hug Your Partner today. Try giving your partner a Sensual Massage.
  1. Erotica – Read some sexy erotica (try Mills and Boon Blaze Editions for raunchy stories) or Fifty Shades of Grey. Lie in bed together, and take turns reading to each other.
  1. Initiate S.ex – Often times in relationships the man is the one who initiates s.ex the most. But eventually a man may get sick of always having to be the one who gets thing started. Be the one to seduce him this Valentine’s Day.
  1. Add some new toys! Experiment with different positions, toys, lingerie and costumes. This creates novelty so these two work hand in hand!
  1. Kiss – not just a peck on the cheek, a REAL KISS – spontaneously kiss your man for at least 1 minute 3 times a day.
  1. Serve yourself for dessert. It sounds silly but it can also be really fun and sexy. Try feeding each other juicy fruit like peaches or strawberries. Grab some yummy ice cream toppings from the kitchen such as whipped cream and chocolate syrup and turn your body into the sexiest sundae he’s ever tasted.

7 day Coaching Challenge

Day 1. Kiss your partner passionately for a full 2 minutes

Day 2. Tonight, ask your partner what turns him or her on. Talking about sex generally leads to sex!

Day 3 – Sleep Naked (please no frumpy flannelettes … or t shirts)

Day 4. Have a bath or shower together and wash each other

Day 5. Send a sexy Text Message or write a Sexy Note and put it in his lunchbox (or Wallet)

Day 6. Buy an erotic novel (or find a story online) and lie in bed and read it to your partner – Remember try Fifty Shades of Grey!

Day 7. Make love somewhere different. Or throw a blanket onto the living room floor, have sex in the bathroom, make out in the Car

“Relationships are like a garden.”  Plant the seeds of Love, Remove the weeds of resentment, shame and blame and then water your Garden with Gratitude, Happiness, Love and Passion.

Kim Gillespie is a Life, Sex and Tantra Coach with Savvy Inspired Women. To find out how you can Re-Ignite Your Sex Life please visit her websites  www.savvyinspiredwomen.com or www.sacredlovetantra.com

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Why Men Cheat

Why Men Cheat

A number of years ago I used to own an Adult Shop … it was an amazing place to work. The customers that shopped there were so varied- there was Mr and Mrs Average, Crossdressers, Drag Queens, Strippers and Escorts. The stories they told me were hillarious and facinating.

Something that really ‘opened my eyes’ was the stories the Strippers and Escorts told me about their clients. Most of the men that visited them were in their 40’s, 50’s and 60’s and were married. Apparently these men were in marriages or partnerships where sex was either non existant or routine and boring. These men were visiting these ladies for sex and intimacy but also to experience something a little different, such as fantasy play or a position other than ‘missionary’.

After talking to these girls, I decided to create a workshop for women on how to spice up their sex life. After all I was in the perfect location … so I closed my shop to customers on a sunday and ran the workshops from my shop. They were a huge success and a lot of fun!

The workshops have evolved over the last 7 years to what they are now … Bedroom Goddess – The Lessons in the Art of Loving’ To find out more just click here

So Why Do Men Cheat?

The reasons why men cheat on women can be varied. Sometimes their reasons don’t even involve you and it’s simply an ego-based decision. Other times, reasons why men cheat can involve you and your relationship, or lack thereof.

Almost all men know that cheating is wrong, yet many they still do it. Men will blame their reasons for cheating on their genes and their necessity to reproduce, and there is some truth to this theory. (The genetic and evolutionary make up of males – both in humans and across the animal kingdom – is to widen their gene pool as much as possible and prevent the genetic material of rivals from being passed to the next generation…. yet surely we have evolved as a species since then? )

Here are the top ten reasons why men cheat:

1. The top reason that men cheat is emotional disconnection. Men are also emotionally driven beings, they want their wives to show them that they’re appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they’re trying to get things right. With daily worries like bills, children and work, it is easy for couples to drift away from appreciating one another like they should.

This feeling of under appreciation is often expressed as follows: “She doesn’t understand me” – “We don’t talk” – “She is too busy with the children” “She is too tired for sex”.

Basically he is not receiving enough attention from his partner and he feels criticized and undermined. When feeling unappreciated at home many men start to feel insecure, and it is that very sense of insecurity which is often the catalyst to the affair. Men need to feel they can make their partner happy and to feel admired and trusted.

The other woman often makes the man feel admired and better about himself and he thinks that she is helping him to deal with his current unhappiness.

2. Your sex life stinks. Some men cheat because they are not receiving an adequate amount of sex at home, because perhaps their partner’s sex-drive has decreased or the sex they do enjoy has grown stale and repetitive. If you have not had sex with your husband in a while —or have cut him of completely, just be aware that one of the factors that is predictive of marriage success is the man’s satisfaction with the sexual experience. So, if you want to be happily married to a man, then you have to find a way to connect with him sexually.

Men have insecurities too. Sex, for a man, validates him and it is his way of expressing his love for you .  

Your man may also want to try new sexual things that you will not try. Sex researcher Helen Kaplan once wrote of a  man whose marriage ended when his wife, whom he loved very much, found out that he was seeing a dominatrix. Sadly, Dr. Kaplan said, the man’s “requirements” were minimal, but he was afraid his wife would abandon him if he even suggested she do what the dominatrix did.

Men generally want more sex compared to women and if their partner cannot give them what they want, they usually turn towards another who can give them that satisfaction, be that by having an affair or seeing an escort. A routine sex life can be as bad as none at all, and sex with a new partner can break this cycle.

Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from becoming boring and non-existent. By keeping surprise and sizzle in your sex life, a woman can keep the home fires burning so hot that her man won’t have any reason to cheat. Visit my website to find out How to Be a Bedroom Goddess

3. You grow apart. Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought.

4. You argue a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly nagging them?

5. They have fallen out of love. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.

6. It’s new, different and exciting. Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try chicken. That’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners.

7. Because they had the option.  Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down. Many men who love their partners and have great sex at home never turn down an opportunity for a bit on the side if they think they can get away with it. In one study, 56% of cheating men surveyed said their marriages were very happy.

Statistics show that 70 per cent of unfaithful men never dreamed they’d be unfaithful, and almost all of them wished they hadn’t done it. But even if your husband swears he would never cheat, don’t assume it can’t happen. It’s important for both of you to take steps toward creating the marriage you want.

What can you do to reduce the possibility of cheating?

1. Men and women need appreciation in different ways. Men want to be admired and appreciated  (they want to know they can get it right for you and be appreciated for it). So if you are woman ask your partner to help you with something that will make him feel good as a man and appreciate him for it.  Women on the other hand, need to be told that they are special.

2. Focus on making your relationship more loving and connected. A strong emotional connection reduces the likelihood of cheating.

3. Schedule in time in your calendars each week to have special time together, maybe to go on a date or do something that nourishes your relationship. The most common mistake of married men and women is they stop dating and flirting . Set one day for you alone. Forget about the children and your other responsibilities. Go out and have fun. Flirt with your partner in both verbal and non-verbal ways.

4. Take an interest in the emotional life of your partner; ask them what they would like more of/less of in the relationship. Find out what is important to them. Communication is a crucial part of any marriage. 

 5. Take steps to ‘Spice Up Your sex Life’ – Sex is one of the key ways your guy expresses his love and feels close to you, so be sure to keep it a priority. If you want to affair proof your marriage, you must always find time for sex.  Continue to explore the sexual needs of your partner and do not be afraid to try various positions, toys and fantasy play. Marriage counselors will always tell you that one way to keep your partner beside you is through sensual , fun and playful lovemaking . Click here to find out more about Bedroom Goddess – The Lessons in the Art of Loving

Finally, if your partner has had an affair, NEVER put all the blame on yourself. 

Ultimately, he is responsible for his behaviour.  

An affair doesn’t have to mean the end of a marriage and the beginning of a painful divorce. However, it is a sign that something is profoundly wrong in the marriage and needs fixing. I can help you with re-igniting your sex life and increasing your confidence both in and out of the bedroom, but I do suggest you see a professional relationship counsellor.

To learn more about Bedroom Goddess – The Lessons in the Art of Loving click here

Scroll down to find some tips on how to Spice Up Your Sex Life … and please leave a comment

Love Kim xxx

Why Women Love Fifty Shades of Grey

Fifty Shades of Grey

Fifty Shades of Grey

Have You Read Fifty Shades of Grey?

50 Shades of Grey is an erotic novel written by  E L James , a TV executive, wife and mother-of-two based in West London.

The story is about a young woman, Anastasia Steele who meets  business tycoon Christian Grey , who has a penchant for “bondage and discipline.” If you have ever fantasized about being dominated and you like reading  romance stories with an edge, you might enjoy 50 Shades of Grey.

What is Power Play and Erotic Domination?

Power play is simply a more heightened variety of erotic domination. It’s about one person taking the lead (dominant) and the other surrendering (submissive) always within mutually agreed upon boundaries.

 

Why do Women Love Fifty Shades of Grey?

1.  It is essentially a romantic love story .

 2. 50 Shades of Grey is a story about a sexy, dominant powerful man and that is fascinating to most women. This has a lot to do with sexual polarity, in todays society many women have morphed into their masculine energy and men into more feminine energy.  Yet so many women are dying for their lovers to take the lead in the bedroom and take them on an Erotic Adventure.  Unfortunately our modern culture has emasculated our men such that they’ve become afraid to sexually lead their woman.

 3. Fifty Shades of Grey has also given women the freedom to talk about the sensual fantasies they think about. Fantasies play a critically important role in keeping sex exciting in long term relationships. Fantasy play and bondage and submission games encourage you to move beyond your comfort zone. They encourage you to surrender to your partner, which requires a great degree of trust and vulnerablity and because of that it will bring you closer to your partner than you have ever been before.

 4. Many women have also been brought up with the ‘Good Girl Syndrome’. This conditioning leads to negative thoughts and feelings about sex and the body, resulting in an inhibited sexual response. How often have you heard the saying ‘Good Girls Don’t”? By playing ‘Fantasy Games’ in the bedroom, you are given permission to ‘Let Go of the Good Girl’ and be a little naughty … because it is only a game

5. It is a Very Sexy Read!!!

For women fortunate enough to have a trusted lover who can take control in the bedroom,  she can surrender completely, knowing he will take her on a  sensual and erotic journey to experience total pleasure.

If you’ve wanted to have your man step up and lead you erotically, tell him. And give him as much detail about what would make it sexy for you and where your boundaries are. Check out the tips below on how to ‘Spice Up Your Sex Life’.

The best lover I ever had,  would push me up against the wall, hold me tight and pin my body to the wall with his torso, he would use his other hand to pull my hair to the side while he kissed and lightly bit the back of my neck. He would then kneel down and slowly run his fingers and tongue up my legs … tell me there is not a woman out there who is swooning right now? Most of us fantasize about the strong, powerful man who can take charge and allow us to surrender completely.

 If you would like to know more about Sexual Fantasy, Erotic Domination and how to Spice Up Your Love Life, you may be interested in my next workshop – Bedroom Goddess – The Lessons in the Art of Loving  on my website Savvy Inspired Women  click here ….

Please leave your comments below and tell me what you thought of Fifty Shades of Grey …. I loved the books!

Love Kim xxx

Tips to help you Spice Up Your Sex Life

Re-ignite your Sex Life

How To Ignite Your Sex Life

Do you remember those days when you couldn’t wait to rip your guy’s clothes off!

For many women in long-term relationships, sex has become just another chore.

Here are 16 tips to help you Re-ignite your Sex Life

1. Retrain your brain. Change the way you think about sex. Most women think of sex as something he gets and you give. Instead, think of yourself as being the receiver or the lucky one. Start seeing sex as a treat for you; you can tune in to other sensual treats in your daily life.

2. Focus on a great sexual experience. Taking just five minutes out of your busy day to replay the specifics of your last really great sexual encounter (even if it was years ago and with someone else!). Thinking about your pleasure: how it made you feel — and how you want to feel that way again can turn you on sexually.

3. Men and Women are different! Acknowledge the differences.Women want romance. They want to cuddle, kiss, touch, talk, be surprised and then make love. On the other hand, men are visual and physically oriented, sexually – They want to be aroused by what their lover wears to bed, the physical language they use, the body cues that they receive from their partner throughout the day, and their partner’s curiosity and interest in being playful and sexy.

4. Take time out for each other. It is essential that you take time out for your relationship as a couple. Schedule a date if you have to, just like you would schedule a haircut or doctor’s appointment. Sometimes work, life’s obligations, and children keep us so busy that the last thing we care to even think about is being intimate. This may sound silly but in today’s world where every minute is accounted for, if you don’t schedule time for your relationship, you won’t have any time for it. And eventually, you won’t have a relationship at all.

5. Write your fantasies. Journal about some of your hottest fantasies

 6. Share your fantasies – I come across so many people that have never shared any of  their fantasies with their partner. It can be a difficult conversation to have, because you don’t know how they are going to react, but often people find out that their partner has similar fantasies and it sparks a whole new life in the bedroom. The beauty of it is that you don’t even have to fulfil those fantasies, sometimes just using them as imagery is enough; imagine your partner whispering in your ear, talking you through the hottest fantasy you’ve ever imagined. When you share your true thoughts and feelings with someone; when you are vulnerable for that moment and it’s reciprocated with equal truth and vulnerability, you grow closer as a couple.

7. Erotica – Read some sexy erotica (try Mills and Boon Blaze Editions for raunchy stories) Have you read the Novel Fifty Shades of Grey? http://www.eljamesauthor.com/  This book has taken the world by storm … Fifty Shades of Grey is  a story of a young woman, Anastasia Steele who meets a business tycoon Christian Grey,  who has a penchant for “sexual domination.” If you have ever fantasized about being dominated and you like reading romance stories with an edge, you might enjoy 50 Shades of Grey….. it is a really sexy read and has re-ignited the sex lives of women from around the world

8. Flirt with your partner. Remind yourself how much fun you had when you first met – re-spark that inner-sexiness from when you first met. A fun thing to do is to meet at a bar and pretend to be strangers and flirt outrageously with each other.

9. Touch – Focus on the physical act of touching. Touch is always a big part of a healthy passionate relationship. Yet so much of the time we forget how to touch our partners. The act of touching is very sensual and fosters an intimate feeling of one-ness. This feeling creates an invisible, seamless transition into foreplay. Take it from there without any expectations. Go with the flow and see where you end up. Humans get so much from touch but most importantly they get a barrage of neurochemicals like endorphins and oxytocin. Endorphins make people feel good and oxytocin bonds people together.

10. Initiate Sex – Often times in relationships the man is the one who initiates sex the most. But eventually a man may get sick of always having to be the one who gets thing started. One of the ways to reignite your sex life is to make your partner feel wanted. Both people in the relationship should initiate intimacy.

11. Try somewhere different – Throw away all your beliefs on how and where you should you have sex. Be open, playful and creative. If you always have sex in the bedroom, pick somewhere else in the house! Write a list of the places you’d like to have sex. Every time you and your partner do something new you create new neural pathways. This helps to create memories as well as helps to continually bond you and your partner. This doesn’t take money necessarily either. This can be something as simple of creating a picnic dinner with wine and candles in the living room. Laughing, being a little wild, and having fun are all great ways to re-trigger the lightness and joy you felt when you first met. Several psychology studies show that if you do activities with your partner that produce brain chemicals associated with arousal, this arousal gets transferred to your private, intimate relationship. Activities that create fear (e.g., roller coaster rides, skydiving, bungee jumping, or scary movies) or that cause an upsurge in the feel-good brain chemicals and this actually increases passionate love.

12. Add some new toys! Experiment with different positions, toys, styles and whatever else you and your partner agree to. This creates novelty so these two work hand in hand! Try a toy you’ve never used before and see what wonderful things you can find to do with it. Trust me, vibrators and bullets are just as much fun used on guys as they are on girls.  Many men report a great feeling when using a vibrator on their inner thighs and on their testicles. (Tip – if using Anal Toys make sure they have a flange or base that is wider than the toy to prevent it from disappearing!)

13. Have Sex Early in the Day – Men’s testosterone peaks between 7 and 8 a.m. so take advantage of this fun fact and have sex with him a few minutes after the alarm goes off

14. Seduce Each Other With Phone Sex – When he is at work send him a seductive text message or picture. Not sure where to start? Try texting him something simple but suggestive like, “Can’t wait 2 c u 2night” Just let him know that you are thinking about being alone with him. Pictures are worth a thousand words, but if you aren’t into the thought of taking nude pics of yourself, you can send him a picture of your lacy bra with the message, “Can’t wait 4 u 2 take this off me 2night.” It’s okay to feel a little shy or awkward, especially if you are new at the seduction bit. However, the more you do it, the more comfortable you will feel, especially when you see how enthusiastically your partner responds.  

15. Kiss – not just a peck on the cheek, a REAL KISS – spontaneously kiss your man for at least 10 seconds 3 times a day.

16. Serve yourself for dessert. It sounds silly but it can also be really fun and sexy. Try feeding each other juicy fruit like peaches or strawberries. Grab some yummy ice cream toppings from the kitchen such as whipped cream and chocolate syrup and turn your body into the sexiest sundae he’s ever tasted.

7 day Coaching Challenge

Day 1. Tonight, ask your partner what turns him or her on. Talking about sex generally leads to sex!

Day 2. Kiss your partner passionately for a full 2 minutes

Day 3. Send a sexy Text Message

Day 4 – Sleep Naked (please no frumpy flanellettes … or t shirts)

Day 5. Have a bath or shower together and wash each other

Day 6. Buy an erotic novel (or find a story online) and lie in bed and read it to your partner – Remember try Fifty Shades of Grey!

Day 7. Make love somewhere different. Or throw a blanket onto the living room floor, have sex in the bathroom, make out in the Car

Would you like some private coaching on how to Spice Up Your Sex Life and Introduce Fantasy Play and Sensual Domination

Bedroom Goddess is designed for women of all ages 
who are single or in committed relationships who ….

– Have lost touch with their sensuality
– Have forgotten how to be playful in the bedroom
– Are re-entering the dating scene after a break-up or a divorce and need to regain their confidence in the bedroom
– Are in a long term relationship and want to ‘spice things up’

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Kim Gillespie is a Life and Intimacy Coach at Savvy Inspired Women. To receive your FREE Online Course ‘The 6 Steps to Fabulous’ The Savvy Woman’s Guide to Discovering Your Life Purpose, Designing Your Life Loving the Amazing Woman You Are ,Being Happy and Getting Your Sexy Back! visit  http://savvyinspiredwomen.com/index.html

7 Tips to Feeling More Sensual

 

What happened to that sexy, flirtatious girl you used to know?

Don’t worry — she’s still in there.

Sensuality and seductiveness is never about what we wear or show to the outside world. It’s aboutthe way we feel inside; it is simply an attitude and a seductive MINDSET. The sexiest part of any woman’s body is between her ears – the way she thinks. Especially about herself.

Sex, a sexier life and self-esteem go hand in hand, because if you don’t feel good about yourself andyour body, the chances of feeling good in bed are limited.

There are many ways to feel sexier in your daily life – and many of these are to do with the way you treat yourself. Being sexy is not about looks. It is all about self-worth. Your sexual confidence includes how you feel about your body, how you imagine other people perceive you, and whether or not you feel attractive to the opposite sex.

Sophia Loren said, “Sex appeal is fifty per cent what you’ve got and fifty per cent what people think you’ve got.”

Magnetic sexy women want adventures, to be with them is to bask in their aura, it hints at world of possibilities and feminine mystique. They don’t wait for others to light their fire – they simply set their own blaze. Most importantly they don’t try and please men. They aim to please themselves. Ironically it’s this very attitude that creates the sense of gravity that pulls men towards them.

Tips to Feel More Sexy and Sensual

Sensuality is not simply about learning to appreciate your body — it’s also about making the sensory experience part of your everyday life, the more tuned in you are to the way things feel, look, smell, and taste, the more sensual — and sexual — you’ll become. Becoming more beautiful and sexy is available to everyone. Look within, discover who you are and fall in love with her.

Your Inner Sensual Goddess wants to let you know that you are a woman and not to hide yourselfaway. Close your eyes and feel her dancing around you. Release the old you and embrace your femininity, your curves and your fabulousness.

1. Visualization can be very powerful, Several times a day, imagine yourself as a powerful, loving and seductive woman who oozes femininity, sensuality and passion…. Believing yourself to be a powerful, loving and seductive woman will reinforce your subconscious mind, giving you a seductive mindset and attitude, as well as bring you the confidence you need to attract quality men.

Go ahead and say it – “I am sexy.”

•I am a sensual, sexual woman.

•I am a vixen

•I deserve pleasure

•I am sexy and beautiful.

•I embrace my body and my sexuality.

•Receiving pleasure is as important as giving pleasure.

•I open myself to pleasure.

2. Fill up Your Pleasure Tank. The sensual Goddess requires Pleasure! There is nothing sexy about a dry, crackly, bitchy, whining woman. Notice when you’re operating on empty. Then start thinking of ways you can make every day even more pleasurable. Make time for something you love every day. Notice how much sexier you feel when you treat yourself like the sensual goddess you are.

3. Dance – Whether it’s taking up pole dancing, belly dance, burlesque or just dancing at home by yourself, Dance reconnects you to the Feminine Sensual Goddess inside

4. Immerse yourself in full body sensuality: set aside time for soaking in a bath scented with Essential Oils. Light some candles and listen to your favourite music as your body and mind relax. And then, massage coconut oil into your warm skin… taking time to follow your body’s curves and taking a detour to all the right places.

5. Do your Kegels. Kegels can improve genital tone and sexual response, all of which can make orgasms more intense for you and your partner. Isolate the muscles you use to stop and start urine flow and then clench and release those muscles whenever you are stuck in traffic  or in a boring meeting.

6. Connect to your body. Knowing and understanding your body is essential to being a sensual and sexy. It also comes in handy when you want to be intimate with another individual – you know what you like and need and can have healthy communication about it.

In order to seduce a man, a woman must first and foremost seduce herself!

 7. Sleep naked. If you’re a pyjama pants and T-shirt kind of girl, sleeping naked will make youfeel a thousand times sexier, which will in turn, get you in the mood.

Next time I will talk about how to Ignite Your Sex Life.

I’d love your comments on what you do to feel more sensual.

Kisses

Kim xxx

5 Tips to Help You Manifest Your Soulmate

 

5 Tips to Help You Manifest Your Soulmate

To attract a partner, the first thing you need to do is look at you. The quality of your life and relationships, is determined by the quality of your thoughts.

So, if you want to change your future and attract a loving new relationship, you must change what you are thinking about right now in this moment.

To find true love … you must be willing to grow beyond the person you are today. Because the person you are now, is the person who has created the experiences that you have already had.

 In order to attract an extraordinary love, we must first face our fears and our beliefs.

We must be willing to give up the emotional armour, we’ve grown used to wearing and become more vulnerable.

 How to Change Your Limiting Love Beliefs

1. Let Go of the Past  – You cannot attract your life partner, surrounded by your baggage. He will not be able to get to you physically, emotionally or spiritually. Before you can accept new love into your life, you need to release any past hurt you are still holding onto from the past.

Some of us find it difficult to attract the right relationship because we’re subconsciously holding onto negative emotions, such as hurt or anger. These unresolved emotions get in the way of joy, happiness and love. If we are ever going to move in the direction of creating a fulfilling, lasting, romantic relationship with an amazing partner, we have to take full responsibility for our past and clean it up.

It is easier to follow old patterns, making everything someone else’s fault …. It is easy to stay stuck in a world of negative emotion and hurt … and attract more of the same, but just in a different size and shape in the form of the next person you attract into your life.

2.Clear Your Limiting Love Beliefs  The first thing to realize is that even though there is a part of you that greatly longs for finding and being with the love of your life, there is another part of you that is scared of it as well. In fact, you are probably not even aware of all the fears you have that are getting in your way! This is true for most people. These fears create a push/pull experience where one part of you is moving in the direction of healthy love and the other part is putting on the brakes and holding you back.

How often have you said one of the following?

“I’m not good-looking enough.”

“All guys are looking for is some thin young blonde.”

“All the great guys are taken and those that are left are the ones no one wants.”

“I just can’t seem to meet anyone interesting or worth the effort.”

“I don’t ever seem to have any luck.”

“I’m just going to have to resign myself to being single forever.”

 “I’m too old”

“Men are only interested in sex”

 When you tell yourself things like this, you actually start to believe it. As a result, you close yourself off to possibilities. It’s amazing the lengths our minds will go to in order to reject love because we feel we don’t deserve it or that it’s too good to be true

The challenge is that if we are constantly telling ourselves that we are not worthy of being loved, then we will give off  those negative vibes … and when men pick up on those vibes , they run for the hills and we feel rejected. The more rejected we feel, the less worthy and less certain within ourselves we feel, the more negative energy we put out there and the more rejection we will experience.

This becomes a vicious cycle !

If you believe that men are jerks … you’ll meet a lot of jerks

If you believe that there are no good men out there … you’ll have a hard time finding any

If you believe men are untrustworthy … you’ll meet few men you can trust

If you believe all men are players … that’s who you’ll meet

If you are playing the record “I’m not good enough!” over and over in your head then most likely you will never be good enough.

 The thing is … this is NOT the truth of who you are!

But the power of belief is so strong that when you shift your perspective from the negative to the positive, miraculous things happen.

If you think that men are fantastic, you’ll see fantastic men everywhere.

If you think that men are in general trustworthy, you’ll find that men usually live up to your trust.

If you think that men need love just as much as women, then you’ll meet men who will appreciate your love everywhere.

 It’s as simple as changing your perspective. Our beliefs drive our behaviour, they can be our greatest friend, or our worst enemy, in the end, the choice is yours.

 Don’t look at others ….. change you …. and magically, the people you meet and how they treat you will change in accordance to that.

As adults, we have a wonderful opportunity to transform our limiting beliefs into more productive and positive beliefs, which then translate into a better life experience

You have an absolute freedom to choose the way you want to live and you can choose your own beliefs and ways to behave.

And the good news is, you can turn this around with a few changes in the way you think and behave.

Start to make an effort to change every negative statement into a positive one.

3. Affirmations   Affirmations are positive statements that work on the subconscious mind to shift beliefs. Affirmations are phrases you repeat to yourself on a daily basis. It is not important that you believe them at first – you will see the results anyway. Repeating a positive statement trains the mind to think in a new way.

Some examples of affirmations

Any man would be lucky to talk to me

I am confident and charming and fabulous

My life is complete

I have everything I need to be happy

I am lovable just as I am, and I am now attracting exactly the right love partner to me.

I am worthy of Love

I know that my soulmate is coming to me now

 4. Learn to Love Yourself First  If we’re looking for a relationship to make us happy, then we are going to be disappointed. The key and most important thing that any of us can do to create an ideal relationship is to do everything and anything that we can see to do to become happier and more fulfilled ourselves. 

When you are happy and fulfilled in yourself, then what you’ll discover is that meeting that perfect partner, being with that ideal mate, brings just an added joy, an added layer of joy and fulfilment to that happiness and joy that’s already there within.

…Before he can fall in love with you …. You are going to have to fall in love with you !

 Finding love has nothing to do with having the perfect figure, being successful at work or wearing the right clothes. It has everything to do with believing you are lovable. Unless you feel this way, you’ll never have a happy relationship. When you have a healthy relationship with yourself, you will give off ‘confidence vibes’ and people will be attracted to you – it doesn’t matter what shape and size your body is, IF you can learn to be comfortable in your own skin and you are happy with yourself, then others will pick up on this and they will quickly want to be around you. A balanced happy person is like a magnet.

5. The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction states that we draw to us the people, places, and experiences that match our state of being.

The good news for most of you is that you already know how to manifest. You’ve done it many, many times. Maybe you didn’t think of it as manifestation, but you’ve done it. Whether its creating a new job or new place to live, or parking place.

The Law Of Attraction is a universal law that works on this simple principle: Like attracts like – what you focus on expands. If you put a lot of focus on something you want, you’ll attract it. If you put a lot of focus on something you do NOT want (like being broke), you will attract it. So you see, when you think about something you want, your attention can be on the pleasures of having what you want, or the unhappiness of not having what you want. The Law Of Attraction will then bring more of what you are predominantly focused on into your life.

If you believe that you are unlovable, then you will be right and no-one will love you. If they try to, you’ll either talk them out of it, or you’ll get rid of them completely.

If you believe you are worthless, then you’ll be right as well, and you will find others who treat you poorly. And if you believe you are destined to be alone in life, then guess what? You’ll be alone no matter how much you want love and affection

If you want to attract the people, situations and circumstances that support the manifestation of love in your life, then you must feel love, believe that it is possible for you and claim it as your own. Believing that you can and will have love is the single most important thing you can do

 It all starts with a positive mindset – I can do this … I am worthy of Love …. I deserve a Loving Relationship

If you need some more help, then you need to book into our Stop Kissing Frogs and Manifest Your Soulmate Workshop

You will You Will Learn the Tools and Processes to:

– Detox your past of old partners, resentments and relationship drama

– Identify the barriers to love that are inside of you

– Release your painful feelings of Anger, Hurt, Sadness, Regret and Unworthiness

– Heal your deepest issues about worthiness and being loveable

– Break Free from the past and finally get resolution

– Learn the Relationship Attraction Tool

– Be able to move on to new fulfilling relationships

— Become a woman who is willing to risk opening your heart to love and to be loved fully and deeply.

– Experience a continual stream of synchronicity, magic and miracles

Visit www.savvyinspiredwomen.com to find out more and to Get Your Free E Course – The 6 Steps to Fabulous

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Tips For Feeling Sexier

 

How to Feel Sexier In and Out of the Bedroom 

  Feel Sexy in and Out of the Bedroom

 

SEX appeal. That much-desired special something that makes heads turn. That certain aura that emanates so strongly from a woman that a man gets weak-kneed

‘Sexy’ Just the word alone is intriguing.

As women, it’s in our energy.

While some women certainly exude sex more then others; as females, we all have the power to own – and enhance – our innate sexiness.

It’s in our every bone; it’s in our lips, eyes, curves and aura.

And while sexy certainly looks nice, it feels even better.

If you not feeling sexy , or just want to amp up the intensity

Ambiance. Set it. Don’t wait for “him” to light the candles, dim the lights and get under clean soft sheets. Extra credit if you wear lingerie.

Pamper Yourself . Whether at a spa or at home, bring pleasure into your world. Maybe give yourself a manicure, take a bath or give yourself a massage. Treat your sexy self as you want to be treated.

Move Your Body.  You want to feel sexy, then do that which makes you sexy. Dance, exercise, … movement will get you out of your thoughts and back into your body, which is, believe us, inherently sexy. Put on the sexiest song you know and seduce yourself.

Mantra. When you just aren’t feeling sexy, you need to change that feeling – and feelings come from our thoughts. So, flip your thought by repeating a mantra to yourself. Try, “I am a fabulous, luscious , sexy woman” (or something of that nature). Fake it till you make it, say it till you feel it.

Laugh. Take a few minutes to laugh.  Laughter is hot!

Go the extra mile. So often when women dress up it’s for a reason: a date, an event, a night out with the girls. How about you dress up for you. Make-up, sexy lingerie and a favourite dress  can make all the difference. It doesn’t need to be a tight little dress. Put on your favourite jeans if they make you feel sexiest, it will show in your energy.

Switch it up. Being stuck in a routine can become dull. Add some colour, buy a new outfit or pull out an old piece you love wearing but just haven’t thought to in a while. Change is bold, change is sexy, and so are you!

Would you like to find out more, then visit www.savvyinspiredwomen.com to find out How to Get Your Sexy Back and Become more Playful in the Bedroom

Upcoming Workshops at Savvy Inspired Women ….

The Goddess Retreat – Get ready for the most delicious day of feminine fun … become more confident and happier, reconnect with your souls purpose , unleash the Goddess within … and Get Your Sexy Back

Femme Falate – Discover simple yet seductive tips and techniques to help you uncover your inner sensuality and inner beauty … discover the Art of Magnetic Attraction

Sex Kitten – Are You Bored in the Bedroom? Get your Sexy Back, Re-ignite the Romance and Create the Juicy Love Life of your Dreams

Visit www.savvyinspiredwomen.com to find out more.

I’d love to hear your ideas on how to feel sexier ! Please leave your comment..

Kisses

Kim xxx

 

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