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How Do You Care For Yourself?

Many women live with guilt. They give to their careers, children and partners and leave themselves until last, and usually by that time, there is nothing left to give.
In the last few years there has been a substantial decline in women’s health and energy levels. I constantly see women who are tired, stressed, have no libido, their relationship is failing and they have lost confidence in themselves along the way.

We lead such busy lives, technology helps us flit like butterflies from one task to the other, but sometimes this means when we get home, we are unable to ‘switch off’ and relax.

If you neglect yourself and your spirit will feel deprived and a deprived spirit will always manifest itself in your physical body. A neglected spirit is never satisfied, you’re never thin enough, pretty enough, life is always too dificult and your self confidence and self worth disappears.

There is a cure – the treatment to is a regular habit of Self Care. Self care is giving your body attention, respect, love and pampering it deserves.

“How you treat yourself is an example to the world of how the world should treat you. People cannot and will not treat you any better than you treat yourself. If you don’t treat yourself well, others won’t treat you well either” James Ray. Harmonic Wealth.

The beauty of this is, that once you start deliberately practicing self love, you’ll notice the people around you, begin to reflect it back to you. Good things happen, people become extra nice, service gets better, you get compliments.

One of the most common excuses I hear from women who deprive themselves of self care, is ‘I don’t have the time’, but we all have choices.

We can fill our lives to the brim and make excuses for neglecting ourselves, or we can benefit from simple daily pleasures that allow us to indulge in self love and live in the moment.

Challenging these beliefs may initially feel uncomfortable, but everyone needs some dedicated ‘me time’. By doing this , we refresh our connection to ourselves and to those around us.

When we are feeling down, it’s common for us to feel we need mothering, we want a motherly figure to care for us with tenderness. But it’s not someone else’s job to mother us.

The key to self care is to mother yourself, to love yourself unconditionally.

YOU give yourself what YOU need.

Think about how you comfort your children or a best friend when they are hurting? Give yourself the same tenderness .

How do you nourish yourself ?
 Nourishing touch

Nourishing walks

Nourishing books

Nourishing words

Nourishing Environments

We all have experiences that make us feel beautiful, whether its getting a massage, a facial, getting dressed up for a ‘girls night out’ or going for a walk by the seaside or in a local park.

Make up your list of what makes you feel beautiful and loved. Now find ways to feed this self love meter. Do something every day that makes you feel wonderful.

Take regular doses of Oxygen
In aircraft safety they say for you to put your own oxygen mask on first – that’s because unless you take care of yourself first you are a liability.Start taking regular doses of oxygen, do the things that bring you joy
When you don’t indulge in what you enjoy, the universe can’t indulge you either

How do you indulge yourself?

– a bath

– a leisurely afternoon at the park

– a slice of chocolate cake

– buying yourself flowers

– going to bed early

By indulging yourself in what you enjoy most, you set the tone, raise your vibration, and allow the universe to indulge you as well.

Bathing is so much more than just getting clean, it can help return the inner calm that most of us need more than ever in out lives. Make bathing a weekly ritual, run a bath and add some beautiful oils, light some candles and close the door , this is your time out.

For a delicious treat that is marvellous for the skin, borrow an idea from Cleopatra, pour a whole 2L of milk into your bath, along with some Lavender Oil, the oil will relax you and the milk is soothing and moisturising for the skin.

Incorporating massage into your routine makes a noticeable difference . As well as relaxing muscles, Having a monthly massage gives you permission to just ‘be’.
We have so much to think about these days that we are training our brains to dart from one thought to the other. The first step to quietening our thoughts is to be mindful. Try closing your eyes and breathing deeply for a few moments, then look at everything around you, and examine each object in detail as if for the first time. Try as you go through your day to be more aware of the present moment. Slow down and check into the stillness at the centre of you, for a touch of peace.
Rest is a foreign concept to many women. Many women are experts at ‘doing‘, and not good at simply ‘being‘. Commit to 15 minutes a day of rest, whether this is taking a walk, having a nap or simply looking out a window.
Put on some music and dance, close your eyes, sway your hips, move your body.


Make the decision every day to love and cherish the amazing woman that you are. Take time every day to nourish your spirit.

Breathe deeply ….  Relax your Shoulders …. Open your Heart

I would love you to leave your comments below. Tell me how you ‘Care for Yourself’

Kisses Kim xxx

Kim Gillespie is the creatrix of Savvy Inspired Women


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