How To Reignite The Romance In Your Relationship
Think back to when you and your partner first met and remember how you both felt.
Remember the first months together? Perhaps you could not keep your hands off each other.
Then, reality starts to set in. You begin to notice little things about your partner that drive you crazy. You start to take each other for granted. Then you wake up one morning and look over at him and wonder what happened to the passion and romance.
Whether you are married or living together in a long-term relationship, the effects are usually the same. Over time, the romance seems to slowly die.
And eventually one or both of you begins to feel unappreciated. For many, this can be the beginning of the end of the relationship, or perhaps the beginning of an affair.
Factors that Contribute to the Breakdown of a Relationship.
Negative behaviour can have a huge impact on a relationship. Each negative comment increases the level of anger and frustration, and once negative comments are made, they are hard to take back.
Invalidation can take many forms. Sometimes it can be caustic, in which one partner (or both) attacks the other person verbally. Sarcastic phrases like “Well, I’m sorry I’m not perfect like you” or “I forgot how lucky I am to be with you” can cut like a knife. These attacks on your partners character and personality can easily destroy a relationship.
The next factor that contributes to the erosion of relationship is invalidation. Invalidation is a pattern in which one partner puts down the thoughts, feelings, or character of the other.Research has found that invalidation is one of the best predictors of future problems leading to separation and divorce.
Another factor is mind reading. Mind reading occurs when you assume you know what your partner is thinking or why he or she did something.
Finally, there is withdrawal. Withdrawal can be as obvious as getting up and leaving the room or as subtle as ‘turning off’ or ‘shutting down’ during an argument.
When the man withdraws, the woman feels shut out and believes that he does not care about the relationship.
How can you tell if your relationship is in trouble?
When you are having relationship problems, whether they are big or small, the sooner you face facts and decide what to do about them the better.
Burying your head in the sand will not make your problems go away. In fact, they will probably just get worse.
You may find yourself replaying old arguments, resurrecting old hurts, crying a lot, or becoming consumed with anger when your relationship is in trouble. Those responses can quickly turn tiny problems into big ones and cause you to lose all perspective when it comes to your partner and your relationship.
How many of the following statements apply to your relationship?
– you feel your partner just cannot do anything right anymore.
– You fight constantly.
– You have lost the ability or the willingness to resolve your problems.
– Resentment and contempt have replaced patience and love.
– You have turned from lovers into roommates. .
– You go out of your way to avoid being together and, when you are together, you have nothing to talk about.
Do not panic if you find that your relationship exhibits some of these characteristics — you are not necessarily headed for a divorce. However, you do have cause for concern and it is time for you and your partner to think about your options and decide what to do next.
After awhile, you just stop doing those things for your partner because you figure they know how much you love them.
Most experts agree that the best way to start back on the road to a blissful relationship is to rekindle the romance that you had early on in your relationship. Maybe you would get your partner flowers for no reason. Perhaps you would leave your man little notes to show your love.
Life as a couple eventually becomes stale and routine with no passion anymore. You are still partners, but are no longer lovers like you once were.
Many couples love each other deeply, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company, yet feel that the relationship is stale. They long for the intensity, romance spontaneity and passion they used to have.
So what do you do?
Retreating into your own worlds will only serve to damage the relationship more.
There are several things you can do to regain the romance, but it has to start within each of you. Both of you must be willing to give a little in order to get back that fire that was there at the beginning of your relationship.
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