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How To Re-Ignite The Romance In Your Relationship

How To Reignite The Romance In Your Relationship

 Become more Romantic

 
 

 

Think back to when you and your partner first met and remember how you both felt.

Remember the first months together? Perhaps you could not keep your hands off each other.

Then, reality starts to set in. You begin to notice little things about your partner that drive you crazy. You start to take each other for granted. Then you wake up one morning and look over at him and wonder what happened to the passion and romance.

Whether you are married or living together in a long-term relationship, the effects are usually the same. Over time, the romance seems to slowly die.

And eventually one or both of you begins to feel unappreciated. For many, this can be the beginning of the end of the relationship, or perhaps the beginning of an affair.
 
Factors that Contribute to the Breakdown of a Relationship.
 
Negative behaviour can have a huge impact on a relationship. Each negative comment increases the level of anger and frustration, and once negative comments are made, they are hard to take back.  

Invalidation can take many forms. Sometimes it can be caustic, in which one partner (or both) attacks the other person verbally. Sarcastic phrases like “Well, I’m sorry I’m not perfect like you” or “I forgot how lucky I am to be with you” can cut like a knife. These attacks on your partners character and personality can easily destroy a relationship.

The next factor that contributes to the erosion of relationship is invalidation. Invalidation is a pattern in which one partner puts down the thoughts, feelings, or character of the other.Research has found that invalidation is one of the best predictors of future problems leading to separation and divorce.

Another factor is mind reading. Mind reading occurs when you assume you know what your partner is thinking or why he or she did something.

Finally, there is withdrawal. Withdrawal can be as obvious as getting up and leaving the room or as subtle as ‘turning off’ or ‘shutting down’ during an argument.
When the man withdraws, the woman feels shut out and believes that he does not care about the relationship.

How can you tell if your relationship is in trouble?

When you are having relationship problems, whether they are big or small, the sooner you face facts and decide what to do about them the better.
Burying your head in the sand will not make your problems go away. In fact, they will probably just get worse.

You may find yourself replaying old arguments, resurrecting old hurts, crying a lot, or becoming consumed with anger when your relationship is in trouble. Those responses can quickly turn tiny problems into big ones and cause you to lose all perspective when it comes to your partner and your relationship.

How many of the following statements apply to your relationship?

– you feel your partner just cannot do anything right anymore.

– You fight constantly.
You have lost the ability or the willingness to resolve your problems.
Resentment and contempt have replaced patience and love.
You have turned from lovers into roommates. .
You go out of your way to avoid being together and, when you are together, you have nothing to talk about.
Do not panic if you find that your relationship exhibits some of these characteristics — you are not necessarily headed for a divorce. However, you do have cause for concern and it is time for you and your partner to think about your options and decide what to do next.

After awhile, you just stop doing those things for your partner because you figure they know how much you love them.

Most experts agree that the best way to start back on the road to a blissful relationship is to rekindle the romance that you had early on in your relationship. Maybe you would get your partner flowers for no reason. Perhaps you would leave your man little notes to show your love.

Life as a couple eventually becomes stale and routine with no passion anymore. You are still partners, but are no longer lovers like you once were.

Many couples love each other deeply, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company, yet feel that the relationship is stale. They long for the intensity, romance spontaneity and passion they used to have.

 

So what do you do?
 Retreating into your own worlds will only serve to damage the relationship more.

 

There are several things you can do to regain the romance, but it has to start within each of you. Both of you must be willing to give a little in order to get back that fire that was there at the beginning of your relationship.
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Kisses and Happy Loving

Kim xxx

 

Relationship Advice

The Top 10 Tips for Fulfilling Relationships. 

Relationship Advice

Improve your Relationship

   

1. Be a good listener 

Show a sincere interest in what’s happening in the other persons life. Listen with openness, this means active listening, really listen and take in what the other person is saying. This may take some practice since most people tend to partially listen, while thinking of what they are going to say next.Remember we have one mouth and two ears. 

2.Look for the good in people. 

You have a choice as to whether you look for the good in people, or their imperfections. The more attention you pay to a persons good points, the more your respect for your partner increases. 

3. Stop having to be Right 

It is so easy to get into the You’re Wrong- I’m Right Thing. Decide between you and your partner that it is more important to feel happy than right. Avoid silly arguments over ‘Why he left the toilet seat up again’ or ‘Why she leaves her dirty coffee cup on the table instead of washing it up straight away’. Give each other permission to be human, and to make mistakes from time to time. 

4.Avoid taking life too seriously. 

Have fun and a good sense of humour. 

5.Respect your partners views. 

We all have a different model of the world and see things differently. No one’s view of the world is right or wrong – it’s a matter of opinion. Try seeing the world from their point of view. 

6. Stop trying to change people. 

When you first fell in love you focused on the things you loved about your partner. So why is it , that when we are together for a while, we forget about all the good points and start to focus on all the things we see as ‘wrong’ with them. Think about it .. How do you feel when someone compliments you ? How do you feel when someone criticizes you? Which of these would you prefer? Take a moment and think about how your partner must feel when you constantly criticize him/her? … also how do you think this makes them feel about you? 

7. Accept imperfections 

We are all Perfectly Imperfect. Perfect people do not exist and sometimes the weakness we see in another, is a way of showing us what needs to be examined in our own psyche. 

8.Self Love 

Take time for yourself, your interests and your personal development. I know we are all busy and it is easier to put your needs aside until you have more time … until the kids are at school, until I am on holidays, until I have more money, until I retire … and suddenly … it’s too late! 

9. Look after your health. 

Poor health will undermine your good intentions and your sense of humour. 

Follow a good diet, exercise and get enough rest. 

  

10.Life is Finite 

If you suddenly discovered you had only six months to live, would you waste your precious time on arguments? How many times would you tell your partner, friends and family “I Love You”. How much more time would you spend with your loved one ? Don’t wait until it is too late. Spend time with your children… take a day off work and go to their school functions, forget about the dirty laundry and make love to your partner, ring your mother and tell her you love her. Don’t leave it until it’s too late. 

Kisses 

Kim xxx 

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